I need friendly advice on... friends.

[Jeremified offline]

Okay, here's the deal. I really got into forums in March, which was the 4th quarter of 7th grade for me. I found that my grades had slipped that quarter; my parents always tell me that it's because I'm on the forums too much; I'm starting to believe them. I'm already taking action and demoting myself from a Co-Admin on another forum to a moderator, to lower its importance. However, there's another trouble: friendship. There's this one kid in my class that happens to like almost everything I like; programming, forums, Internet (but not Star Wars; I hate that). We used to be a group of three; Matthew was the 3rd. He left this year, so it's just us two (the other guy doesn't want his name stated online). I know that he hasn't had many friends in the past, and me and Matthew both came in the 6th grade. Now we know that Matthew's leaving. The point is that I get distracted easily when I'm with friends. I don't know whether to go solo and try and raise my grades back up from the abyss of B's and B-'s (my parents have high standards for me), or to stick with him and try to pull through.
The problem is, when I look at it from his perspective, he's going to see all his friends going their separate ways- he may not want to go alone. But I desparately want to get my grades up, and to do that, I need to concentrate on school alone. This means that I may not be on the forums as much; in fact, I'll probably only get on during the weekends or days when there's absolutely no homework or studying to do. I need advice on whether to split up with him and get my grades up, or to stay with him through 8th grade.

[Rail Runner offline]

well Jeremified...here is what you can do..tell him look...you are still my friend, but I need to concentrate on school so that way I can get my grades up...he will understand..let him know that yall can hang out at a later point in time..just right now you need to study and concentrate more...tell him that its nothing personal with him, but its just school is very important..

[Tekirai offline]

This is something I find really hard helping with, I'd say why AGAIN but then people would throw flaming geese at me and it kinda hurts.

If you're REALLY worried about your grades, I would focus on them but try to keep in touch with your friend (and us, we'd miss yew D=) as much as possible without getting distracted. Foscusing more on your friend might work too if you commit yourself enough to work on the grades at the same time. Or work super hard on your grades as quickly as possible and then move onto the friendship thing. Better yet, you could BOTH help each other out on both your grades, and if you do well then everybody's happy. (Sorry is this sounds like I'm telling you this like '1234, or maybe 3124. 2413 works too!', but it's the best advice I can give. xD;)

I just can't stand parents who expect everything and a strawberry pancake from their kids. Makes me want to squish them all with a telegraph pole so much...

[Rail Runner offline]

but seriously, your grades will help you out in the near future...friends come and go..its life.

[Jeremified offline]

I just can't stand parents who expect everything and a strawberry pancake from their kids. Makes me want to squish them all with a telegraph pole so much...

They actually don't expect much from me; it's just that they've unexpectedly dropped due to forums and they want them to stay where they were (straight A's). I guess they just got used to me bringing a 94 at lowest and at least 2 A++'s.

[Rail Runner offline]

well..do the best you can..and the advice I gave you should work...let me know how things work out

[Tekirai offline]

I just can't stand parents who expect everything and a strawberry pancake from their kids. Makes me want to squish them all with a telegraph pole so much...

They actually don't expect much from me; it's just that they've unexpectedly dropped due to forums and they want them to stay where they were (straight A's). I guess they just got used to me bringing a 94 at lowest and at least 2 A++'s.

I wasn't particularly talking about yours. It was just a random muse. =P A 'on the subject of' sort of thing.

[Tom Bone offline]

Well, grades are important, but friendship, in my book, is the most important thing you can have.

[The BB of C offline]

Okay, here's the deal. I really got into forums in March, which was the 4th quarter of 7th grade for me. I found that my grades had slipped that quarter; my parents always tell me that it's because I'm on the forums too much; I'm starting to believe them. I'm already taking action and demoting myself from a Co-Admin on another forum to a moderator, to lower its importance. However, there's another trouble: friendship. There's this one kid in my class that happens to like almost everything I like; programming, forums, Internet (but not Star Wars; I hate that). We used to be a group of three; Matthew was the 3rd. He left this year, so it's just us two (the other guy doesn't want his name stated online). I know that he hasn't had many friends in the past, and me and Matthew both came in the 6th grade. Now we know that Matthew's leaving. The point is that I get distracted easily when I'm with friends. I don't know whether to go solo and try and raise my grades back up from the abyss of B's and B-'s (my parents have high standards for me), or to stick with him and try to pull through.
The problem is, when I look at it from his perspective, he's going to see all his friends going their separate ways- he may not want to go alone. But I desparately want to get my grades up, and to do that, I need to concentrate on school alone. This means that I may not be on the forums as much; in fact, I'll probably only get on during the weekends or days when there's absolutely no homework or studying to do. I need advice on whether to split up with him and get my grades up, or to stay with him through 8th grade.

Don't split up with him over grades. Just make sure you pass and reserve a time maybe every other weekend to hang out with him.

[Pyro-Lord offline]

Jeremified, still spend time with your friend, but also catchup with stuff at the same time. I've got plenty of friends but that works for me.

[Jeremified offline]

Okay, thanks for your input. I still just need one more vote because it's tied and I would go for either one. Can somebody else PLEASE vote?

[Rudger offline]

In my opinion you should stick with them but try to balance it out with the grades. From personal experiance I can tell you that not having any freinds is not the way to go. for a couple of years none of my freinds were in my classes and we never did anything outside of school. it was like not having freinds at all. the occasional "hi" in the hallway on the way to class and thats it. no freinds has the possibility to lead to a state of depression and anger. when that was hapening to me I had nobody to talk to when things were bad so I just kept it all inside untill I got home and just beat the crud out of anything that would annoy me. If my playstation was acting up I would pound it untill the cover broke and then throw the game across the room just because I had nothing better to do. its not a pretty picture. im voting to stay with him. and I dont want to sound harsh but why are you worrying about getting B's? are you trying to get into Oxford or something. jeeze. plus by the time you hit senoir year I can almost guaruntee that you couldnt give a squat about your grades as long as you pass.

[Jeremified offline]

I see two people voted on opposite sides. ONE more, please?
And thanks for the advice, Rud. I appreciate it.

[Delritho offline]

I say split up with him for now, your grades will basicly rule the rest of your life, friends come and go, it's life i'm afraid, but I would try to keep some contact with him, just get your grades on.

But really B's I would kill, and maim, just to have B's :O

[Jeremified offline]

Lol, okay. Anyways, I have decided to just chat with him before school and during lunch. Then when I need to focus on school, I'll keep my focus on THAT instead.

Does anybody disagree with my strategy?

[Tom Bone offline]

Well, grades are important, but friendship, in my book, is the most important thing you can have.

I'm sticking with what I said.

[Sithking Zero offline]

That's what I do with my friends (it's the only time that I can see them!)

[Jeremified offline]

I guess... okay!

By the way, did I mention that if I get at LEAST an A- average throughout the year with no C's, D's, or F's (duh), my parents will buy me ANY COMPUTER I WANT. (Well, within reason.) This means that if I stick with grades only, I could get the best brand spankin' new computer with every single new feature on it! My heart races just thinking about it. :O
This influence any of your ideas?

[Sithking Zero offline]

Try to see if you and your friend can organize study sessions together. Best of both worlds!

[Rudger offline]

I guess... okay!

By the way, did I mention that if I get at LEAST an A- average throughout the year with no C's, D's, or F's (duh), my parents will buy me ANY COMPUTER I WANT. (Well, within reason.) This means that if I stick with grades only, I could get the best brand spankin' new computer with every single new feature on it! My heart races just thinking about it. :O
This influence any of your ideas?

please dont get offended but it makes me wonder at your reliability as a friend if you were to ditch them for a new computer when you seem to be doing very fine on the one you have. I mean, I've never heard you complain about it before so it can't be all that bad. but I dont know the whole story so please dont get angry with me about this comment.

[Jeremified offline]

I guess... okay!

By the way, did I mention that if I get at LEAST an A- average throughout the year with no C's, D's, or F's (duh), my parents will buy me ANY COMPUTER I WANT. (Well, within reason.) This means that if I stick with grades only, I could get the best brand spankin' new computer with every single new feature on it! My heart races just thinking about it. :O
This influence any of your ideas?

please dont get offended but it makes me wonder at your reliability as a friend if you were to ditch them for a new computer when you seem to be doing very fine on the one you have. I mean, I've never heard you complain about it before so it can't be all that bad. but I dont know the whole story so please dont get angry with me about this comment.

I'm not. Yeah, it does sound kinda lame, but so far we're doing fine chatting between classes and stuff. So we're cool, and so are my grades.

[Rail Runner offline]

im glad you found a middle ground for the situation..thats awesome.

[Lyoko SA80 offline]

Atfer having a quick looke thought .I mat be late but this is want I would say .It come to my attention that someone has two problems mmmmm.Now friends is a tough area as the lads/lassies have said .Friends do come a go .My dad was in the RAF and making friends were the hardest part of life for me and still is .Your grades are the most inportant thing to your life success but the truth is I can understand friends are needed to be there to back you up .Well you got friends here at lyokofreak (I hope)LOL.My group of friends here are broken up at the moment due to the fact jeremire is still at high school in 6th and final year hs parnet are great people but want to help him with his life ahead but we are there for him.All I can advise is keep a look out for friends .If someone looks down talk to them .If someone has just fallen out with they friends and has no way to go .That your call .Relax,don't let stress teair you down .We are here for you Jerfield.Tell your parnetsyou need to relax and there should been ok about it .