Lonelyness and constant love

[Portuquese offline]

Well my problem is that I have been waiting for a person to love all my life, so far. I have been rejected more times then years i have been alive. I was told the reason why by one person who didnt beat me up after asking them if they wanted to go to the movies with me. It's like there is something telling them to beat me up as the first four people I asked out were my friends and went out with all of my other friends too. I knew these girls for a long time but when I asked one of them they all beat me to a pulp. And this cycle constantly repeats itself every year.

1. fall in love with one person
2a. Get the shit beat of me after i become friends with them
or
2b. find out later that they have a boy friend or they love someone else

This has happened to me 17 times and now i am loveless and I have not dated or had a relationship with anyone all my life so far, I stay charming and always humble to all I meet and say goodbye to but up until now no one has loved me and I constantly feel as if I am alone in this world so I try not to ever fall in love but it always happens meaning I get more bruises each year. I am currently in love with a girl at school that I am friends with but I dont know if she is going out or in a relationship with anyone, she mentioned a few guys but nothing much of dating them. I recently dug up some info saying that my friend that I met this year was in love with her too but they got into an argument when he was crying about her. I constantly think of her and still am to this very second. I always wish to talk to her but she always moves quickly through the halls but I asked her if i can talk to her more during the time I see her and so she agreed but I want to show love but I always hold back. I plan to give her a suprise this christmas (her favorate band's CD's she's been wanting with some extra stuff) but it's going to give to much away. Mt female friend says to me that women can know what men are liking at the moment and I always try to understand how people think.

Any advice for me anyone...

[psyt offline]

Huh... Your predicament seems unique. I don't really no what to say, I mean i have never really been in such a position, but I'll share my #1 rule with you. Its what i was always told in similair situations, what do you have to lose? it seems like you could lose a friend and get a beating, so i would be cautios if i were you, but holding back completely seems worse then not even trying, even if it comes out worse then it started. Wondering "what if" is the worst.

better to have loved... or attempted to love... and lost then not to have loved at all

I thought that rant was pretty good >.>

[Overcaffeinated Sloth offline]

Okay:
Watch your language.
*If you have to, replace certain words with random lines like
"Crudmuffin!"
You can't take crudmuffin, or crudturnip, because those are copywritten as FSP property.

And second,
Don't pay so much attention. I have this one friends where she could tell who I liked and tell them.

[MY85 offline]

Okay:
Watch your language.

As long as there's no f-words, it's okay. Though, the 2a option is kinda weird.

[Dummo Marx]

Dude...trust me....I know EXACTLY how you feel...

Look, try to shoot for simpler relationships, girls who aren't your friends...simple relationships...that way you'll know what you want, and you'll stop falling so wildly in love.

To be honest..there are a BUNCH of girls after you, I know it...pick opne of them....enjoy time with them...discover yourself through them...

maybe you'll fall for them, maybe not...

either way....love is out there for you dude...trust me on that

[X.A.N.A offline]

I understand the situation you are in Portuquese.

I've had many crushes over the years, none have resulted in anything but dissapointment. I can't say I was ever phyiscally hurt however, and I would suggest taking some self-defense classes in order to protect yourself.

I can only really suggest that you keep trying and never give up, because the right person is out there, you just need to find her.

[psyt offline]

I understand the situation you are in Portuquese.

I've had many crushes over the years, none have resulted in anything but dissapointment. I can't say I was ever phyiscally hurt however, and I would suggest taking some self-defense classes in order to protect yourself.

I can only really suggest that you keep trying and never give up, because the right person is out there, you just need to find her.

self defense...? its one thing for a girl to beat up a guy, kind of embarressing, but if a guy beats up a girl that is like... very punishable, atleast around where i live

EDIT: nevermind... i realize it could just be used as "defense"... that didnt really dawn on me till after i posted

[Little Vili offline]

To be honest..there are a BUNCH of girls after you, I know it...pick opne of them....enjoy time with them...discover yourself through them...

Yeah, I just found out that five girls like me (at least)....I was really shocked by that. But I only know who one of them is.

[YDV offline]

...I'd hate to come in and ruin everyone's mood with my sulking, but. Yeah. I've "had crushes on" a few girls, some of which I never even had the courage to talk to, and very few of which crossed wayyy over into "past like" (for instance my friend right now who I'm not sure if I should like anymore..)

I doubt anyone's ever liked me though. I'm just not attractive (well, I mean, I'm not like the ugliest person alive even though I think that sometimes, but let's face it-- I don't have a "hot bod", I'm too quiet for most peoples' tastes, and there's nothing particularly appealing about my personality.)

Getting beat up by the girl you like has got to be pretty mortifying tho @.@

[Little Vili offline]

Yeah, I've never heard of getting beat up just for liking someone...Im sure glad I dont live where Portuquese lives. But on the same note (this goes for Portuquese and YDV) there is a girl out there for everyone. And you may not look good to all girls, but I assure you, you will one day find "the one."

[YDV offline]

Okay, I totally feel like crap... I just found out that my friend aka the girl i had a crush on actually likes this other guy we used to hang out with last yr and that he likes her so my other friend was trying to get him to ask her out... and she told him that she didn't like me becuase I was too "clingy." Clingy?! Wtf. We weren't even going out or anything. It's not like I act all weird around her... I mean, what, am I not allowed to be friendly or something?! I mean usually I'm really like quiet and indifferent to people unless I know them well but it's like.. who else am I supposed to be happy to be around if it's not my friends? And what about my other one that was trying to get the.. other guy.. (I hate not using names) to ask her out? What kind of friend is he if he'd tell my best online friend but not me and make her promise nto to tell? I really hate that stuff about him.. he's done stuff like this before, too (I'm trying really hard not to cuss..)

idk. I wasn't really confident about girls or anythign before, now I don't even know if I can sit with her at lunch tomorrow. And I have to sneak to get online so I can't even talk to anyone about it (who am I gonna call if apparently I no longer have any friends? My parents would probably tell me I shouldn't have had a crush on her anyway or something)

Ugh. I dunno if I want to hit something or get all depressed.

[DL offline]

damn man...no idea what to say to that...but feel free to cuss here...it is allowed...that is something...try beating up a pillow or going for a run...it helps

[YDV offline]

Hmm.. didn't know we could cuss here. But I think I will try that pillow thing (it's like -5 million degrees outside im not going for a run lol)

Thanks for trying to help anyways. ^-^

EDIT: Ugh.. I had my online friend (apparently the only one i have these days..) ask her why she thought I was clingy and here's what she said:

Friend: Ex-Crush (5:59:49 PM): well he told me u said "YD" told u he likes me and that annoys me...cuz i don't like him and it annoys me how he always pressures me to break up with my bf tom or how he always wants to hang out together or how he won't leave me alone
Friend: "other friend" told!! what a traitor
Me: omfg
Me: that little bastard cant keep anything to himself
Me: what a.. how did ben jeapes put it... seditious bitch. lol it was in my book and i started cracking up when i read it lol
Friend: Ex-Crush (6:00:23 PM): i mena it sounds kinda harsh and i hate being mean but...it's just kinda like "agh!" sometimes. u kno?
Me: i dont PRESSURE her into anything
Me: oh fucking wow i want to hang out with her guess what bitch thats what friends generally do
Friend: i told u she would be annoyed with that but did u listen to me ? NO!
Friend: Friend (6:01:20 PM): yeah he told me about how he was telling u to break up with that guy and i was telling him not to cuz i figured u would be annoyed but he didnt listen to me lolo
Ex-Crush (6:01:55 PM): well it's my decision and it annoys me when people tell me what to do anyway

Yeah I know, it's confusing. But here's some more I just got:

Friend: Ex-Crush: (6:08:06 PM): i hope. cuz i mean he used t like my friend allison and she described him as pretty much meeting a girl and then liking her later and it was annoying to her but...i just don't kno
Friend: how the heck does she know about allison
Friend: lol
Friend: Ex-Crush (6:08:48 PM): i'm just trying to be nice and not "lead him on" and not be a bitch and get some space all at the same time and it's kinda hard
Friend: Friend: (6:09:38 PM): i could talk to him for u if u want
Ex-Crush (6:11:07 PM): well i don't kno. i don't want to start drama but if u can do it so that...i'm not sure how to say it
Ex-Crush (6:11:36 PM): like so he don't get offended but he backs off and he doesn't think i told him to go away or that i was annoyed i guess

Now I feel WORSE. Not only does she think I'm annoying, but my ex-friend who doesnt talk to me anymore (and whom I USED to have a crush on for like 2 months last year) thought I was too!! I knew everyone thought I was annoying, I just KNEW it.

[kindpastor offline]

I solve the problem of love by living vicariously through code lyoko.