So the translation of this...

[. offline]

Ya know whats eating away at me? Try and get with a girl get shot down and then they're all like "Oh don't worry Nick, you're a nice guy. You'll find a girl that likes you eventually. I just really wanna be friends with you"

So what does that really mean I ask you? I'll tell you "Your nice and all but I am not going out with you, your not worth me, you can friends with me if you want (not really I'm just trying to avoid being the "bad guy") and MAYBE you'll find someone eventually. I don't know/care if you do"

So what is it? What the blue heck do I gotta do to get the girl for a change? Ya know, it's not even about going out with a girl because at this point there is no one I'm interested in but ya know, it be nice for a d*mn change to things go in reverse and have the girl be attracted to me for a change or something. I've had no freaking validation and it's eating away at me.

Yeah I know it's pathetic that I feel I need the validation of girl to make me happy, but I feel like a loser because it seems to me I'm the only guy in the school that can't get anyone to him not matter how much I try to sell myself like a can of soda.

>.< Take my advice children and avoid women.

[Jeremified offline]

>.< Take my advice children and avoid women.

I'm with ya.
I'm not really sure what to tell you at this point, except for that I feel sorry for you.

[KayLenny#7 offline]

Yay! You're just like me!

Those girls need a big smack in the face is all I can say.

[Crazy_For_Christ. offline]

Yay! You're just like me!

Those girls need a big smack in the face is all I can say.

Numbuh 7! That's being a Jerk toward girls.

And Pepsi dude, no wonder you ain't with no girl. Shesh!

[. offline]

Yay! You're just like me!

Those girls need a big smack in the face is all I can say.

Numbuh 7! That's being a Jerk toward girls.

And Pepsi dude, no wonder you ain't with no girl. Shesh!

What? What is it? Tell me what the heck the reason is, cause maybe I'm blind to it but I always just assumed being a good guy would be enough.

[The BB of C offline]

Nevermind the question I asked earlier. They probably just think you're ugly.

[emoBillâ„¢ offline]

HEY! I'M A GIRL! I CAN GIVE GOOD ADVICE!

Well... if the girls don't want to go out with you... hopefully someone will come along... if you really like a girl, then get her something that shows it... if she doesn't want to be your girlfriend she is just looking for someone else. Keep searching. I really hate to give you the same advice, but it's true.

Naturally... what makes me want to be around boys... is when they're nice and sweet and they never are mean to anyone else, and they like the same things I like... and they also have to be good at coding and computers ^_^

That's about it.

[The BB of C offline]

That's basically how it is up there.

[emoBillâ„¢ offline]

They probably just think you're ugly.

Nah. I'm sure he's really cute.

OH NOEZ! NOW I AM GOING TO BE TEASED AGAIN! HELP!

[The BB of C offline]

I saw a picture of him. He's a bit on the round-heavy side and doesn't know proper boxing stances

[emoBillâ„¢ offline]

Oh be quiet, you ^.^;

[The BB of C offline]

But still, women sometimes feel socially pressed to be with someone who looks really good otherwise take criticism from their friends. But then again, I don't really know these girls he's talking about so it can go either way.

[emoBillâ„¢ offline]

Yeah, kinda ^^;

[. offline]

I saw a picture of him. He's a bit on the round-heavy side and doesn't know proper boxing stances

I'm thinner and more muscular now, thankfully. That was when I was when I was around 280, I'm 30 pound lighter now and more muscular.

[emoBillâ„¢ offline]

That was when I was when I was around 280.

YOU WERE 280 YEARS OLD?!

[The BB of C offline]

I saw a picture of him. He's a bit on the round-heavy side and doesn't know proper boxing stances

I'm thinner and more muscular now, thankfully. That was when I was when I was around 280, I'm 30 pound lighter now and more muscular.

Professional.

[MY85 offline]

That was when I was when I was around 280.

YOU WERE 280 YEARS OLD?!

*facepalms*

Let's see... 250's a normal weight for heavyweight competition...

[Paige offline]

The only reason they said that is because they don't want you to think they hate you. They still want to be friends with you. I've said something along the lines of that about.... 3 times.

[KayLenny#7 offline]

The guy who often gets rejected... Hmm, let's see.

Lol, girls like me go for the guys that all the other girls are too stupid to accept. Someone like me is probably crazy about you! I can guaruntee that as long as you aren't a mutant cabbage, some girl thinks you're attractive. ^^

[. offline]

The only reason they said that is because they don't want you to think they hate you. They still want to be friends with you. I've said something along the lines of that about.... 3 times.

She doesn't want to be my friend though thats the thing. She really wants nothing to do with...

...Ah at the end of the day, it's this: I've lost my smile.

[G-Force offline]

Ok at the risk of sounding a bit brash, I will put my opinions on this manner. This is in no way an attack on those who have posted on this board, this is all just my personal opinion so you can take it or leave it.

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As much I can sympathize with the pain of a broken heart as I've seen its devestating effects on a person, I will that in general people usually take issues like these a bit too serious. You need food, you need shelter you don't need a romantic relationship in your life or a wife/husband or even a boyfriend/girlfriend. Not having one of these things is not essential to our survival yet we make a big deal out of it as if we do not find a good spouse in the next three months of our lives we're just going to keel over and die a miserable death.

Honestly, one has to ask themselves if they really were in love. Heck, none of us know what "true love" really is. Times when I've seen my friends who say they've "found the one" end up to be shallow cases. When they do get shot down they act like they were denied their ray of sunshine. Here's where the reality check comes in. Probably in the even the girl did say yes, that relationship would not have lasted long. Why? Because the love was one-sided.

Taken to your example of that you're the only guy in school who can't get a girl. I think that's your emotions talking rather then your sense of logic. Is it really possible for EVER SINGLE guy and girl to be hooked up and for some reason you're left all alone? Do you seen all the students holding hands down the hall, sneaking kisses here and there, exchanging gifts for Valentine's day? Though it does feel like you're alone in a group of people it is just physically IMPOSSIBLE for every single student in your high school to be romantic involved with someone else.

However, that's not the point I'm trying to make. Essentially all I'm asking is...

What's wrong with being single?

Seriously, is there a real social stigma of just being in the company of Me, Myself and I? Do people really care that instead of holding hands with a girl, you're holding your textbooks or your CD player? There is absolutly wrong with going stag. I mean look at all the benifits there is to it.

-No offending someone if you forgot a specific date
-No spending money on anyone else but yourself for your own needs
-No fear of making someone jealous by talking to a member of the opposite gender
-No worrying about asking anybody out to dances or dates

One would think that when I was in high school I was one of those bitter individuals who always were envied all the couples I saw. Guess again. My group of friends from the various honors classes I was in was at least twenty people strong, guys and girls, and guess what? We were all single and didn't care. We were too focused with doing more important things with our time in school such as getting ready for college and learning skills that prepare us for the work force in the real world. Were we miserable, heck no! We had the greatest time together and just enjoyed our friendship for face value.

Ok I'll lay my cards out on the table, this is a fact about me that I am not ashamed to reveal. I intend to remain single all my life. I see no need of having a girlfriend nor will I ever will. Though this may sound like an oath I made out of bitterness it is something I decided ever since I was four years old which I have been able to maintain until now (I'm nineteen). I'll admit that I was in a relationship but that was because of the fact that the girl I was with really loved me and I didn't want to be cruel and play with her heart and acknowledge her feelings until my mirroed them. However when we did break up it was a rather nasty affair which only proved to me that it was foolish of me to break my own promise.

To put it (overly) bluntly if trying to obtain a relationship is so painful, the experience so agonizing and if the end results leaving one gigantic emotional scar then there's two things you can do.

A: Stop
B: Try again

That's all there is to it. If you're that insistant on getting a girlfriend, sulking on the benches is going to do you any good but then again trying to "sell yourself like a soda" isn't really helping your case either. You want to love the person you're being with, not just the fact you're in a relationship.

[. offline]

Ok at the risk of sounding a bit brash, I will put my opinions on this manner. This is in no way an attack on those who have posted on this board, this is all just my personal opinion so you can take it or leave it.

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As much I can sympathize with the pain of a broken heart as I've seen its devestating effects on a person, I will that in general people usually take issues like these a bit too serious. You need food, you need shelter you don't need a romantic relationship in your life or a wife/husband or even a boyfriend/girlfriend. Not having one of these things is not essential to our survival yet we make a big deal out of it as if we do not find a good spouse in the next three months of our lives we're just going to keel over and die a miserable death.

Honestly, one has to ask themselves if they really were in love. Heck, none of us know what "true love" really is. Times when I've seen my friends who say they've "found the one" end up to be shallow cases. When they do get shot down they act like they were denied their ray of sunshine. Here's where the reality check comes in. Probably in the even the girl did say yes, that relationship would not have lasted long. Why? Because the love was one-sided.

Taken to your example of that you're the only guy in school who can't get a girl. I think that's your emotions talking rather then your sense of logic. Is it really possible for EVER SINGLE guy and girl to be hooked up and for some reason you're left all alone? Do you seen all the students holding hands down the hall, sneaking kisses here and there, exchanging gifts for Valentine's day? Though it does feel like you're alone in a group of people it is just physically IMPOSSIBLE for every single student in your high school to be romantic involved with someone else.

However, that's not the point I'm trying to make. Essentially all I'm asking is...

What's wrong with being single?

Seriously, is there a real social stigma of just being in the company of Me, Myself and I? Do people really care that instead of holding hands with a girl, you're holding your textbooks or your CD player? There is absolutly wrong with going stag. I mean look at all the benifits there is to it.

-No offending someone if you forgot a specific date
-No spending money on anyone else but yourself for your own needs
-No fear of making someone jealous by talking to a member of the opposite gender
-No worrying about asking anybody out to dances or dates

One would think that when I was in high school I was one of those bitter individuals who always were envied all the couples I saw. Guess again. My group of friends from the various honors classes I was in was at least twenty people strong, guys and girls, and guess what? We were all single and didn't care. We were too focused with doing more important things with our time in school such as getting ready for college and learning skills that prepare us for the work force in the real world. Were we miserable, heck no! We had the greatest time together and just enjoyed our friendship for face value.

Ok I'll lay my cards out on the table, this is a fact about me that I am not ashamed to reveal. I intend to remain single all my life. I see no need of having a girlfriend nor will I ever will. Though this may sound like an oath I made out of bitterness it is something I decided ever since I was four years old which I have been able to maintain until now (I'm nineteen). I'll admit that I was in a relationship but that was because of the fact that the girl I was with really loved me and I didn't want to be cruel and play with her heart and acknowledge her feelings until my mirroed them. However when we did break up it was a rather nasty affair which only proved to me that it was foolish of me to break my own promise.

To put it (overly) bluntly if trying to obtain a relationship is so painful, the experience so agonizing and if the end results leaving one gigantic emotional scar then there's two things you can do.

A: Stop
B: Try again

That's all there is to it. If you're that insistant on getting a girlfriend, sulking on the benches is going to do you any good but then again trying to "sell yourself like a soda" isn't really helping your case either. You want to love the person you're being with, not just the fact you're in a relationship.

I'd be merely content with the knowledge that a girl had a crush on me, but I can't even get that it seems.

There is nothing wrong with being single, if your perfectly comfortable in being single. I'm not. I won't until I feel comfortable with my abilities to get a girlfriend. I won't until I feel I actually matter.

Plus if I can go just a wee bit in depth with what I'm talking about here, just to give you a taste. I meet a nice sweet girl who well call Saria. I met Saria and I'm immeadedly attracted to her. We become friends and I make a active habit of trying to hang out with her often (with out being overbearing mind you) for a few weeks. She eventually catches on that I like her, she doesn't have the same feelings.

...All right, pay close attention boys and girls, heres the clincher.

Instead of ya know, talking to me, she embarrasses me in front of my friends (on purpose to hurt me, mind you) by bringing up my ex girlfriend (who was not attractive in either the physical or the emotional sense and was the biggest mistake in my life by dating because she's poison). and bassically then acts like the thought of me dating my ex was very repulsive.

.... And I won't lie that hurt a lot. Right there in front of all my friends. I wanted to die.

Oh but wait boys and girls! It gets better! I then find out the whole thing was planned by her to hurt me! So that she didn't have to let me down face to face. So instead of shooting me down in private she opts to humilate me infront of my friends.

THAT REALLY HURT!

Oh yeah but where still friends after that (because I'm such a nice caring guy and all, I don't evne bring it up.) and she tells me on AIM shes going out with Jerk named Vincent that I NOW learned only knew her for like 3 days and asked her out. WHAT THE HELL? WHAT THE HOLY FREAKING HELL?

Oh but shes all like "but where still friends~!" oh but are we? Does she even talk to me? Does she bother to see how I"M doing? Does she really care a way a friend would? NOPE. NOTHING. ZIP. And I gotta get a kick out of something. She told my friend I was sweet but not her type... But the guy she is dating that she new for only a mere 3 days, IS A TOTAL FREAKING JERK. I didn't judge the guy tell I actually sat with him at lunch for 40 minutes and just listened to him speak. He's a jerk. and probbly some other things I could only say in BKO.

Oh but to her, he's a prince. A real flippin' prince charming and sweetest guy on the earth. I swear... Ya know by know means am I a violent person, but he's the first person in my life I actually wanna hurt and could probbly do so with out feeling bad afterwards. Thats scary, but it's the truth. Sad thing is I couldn't even if he really pissed me off because I want to be a good guy, I can't do such heelish things.

[mooshie offline]

now since we've ruled out stopping trying to go out with someone just to validate your existance, my suggestion would be rather than what you have been doing, whic obviously doesn't work, try something else, namely not acting like it was a big deal like you did with the girl who humiliated you, and instead acting like it is what it really is, a relationship to prove to yourself that you can have one, and although everyone probably already knows this "let's just be friends" translates into "I'm breaking up with you, And "it's not you, it's me really means "it's you not me I hate you and never should have gone out with you"