The many things I'm unhappy about

[Yumi52Ishiyama offline]

Well, here they are.
1.My best friend moved. This is the fifth time it's happened since I moved five years ago.
2.I think I like the guy she likes. She asked me to "keep an eye on him". Oh shoot.
3. I also think I like someone I haven't even met. He's my friend's friend, and I've talked to him online.
4.My parents are completely over-protective. They still treat me like a kid. My mom counts to three when I don't do what she says.
5. Everyone at my school(mainly boys)tease me, and call me ugly.
6. The guys I used to like(who are best friends) always are like, "No one likes you, I hate you, my best friend told me not to talk to you."
7.My English teacher hates me. He's a moron. Like, It's been my dream since I was three to be a writer, and everytime he's talking about how no one is a perfect writer, and we can all improve, he looks at me. As if I'm the worst writer in the class or something! He wouldn't know good writing if it bit him in the overlarge butt.
8.My other friend has two imaginary bunnies. I can never kill them. It's so frustrating.(Yes, she's crazy )
9.My mom says I can't go to Japan because of the bird flu. (I am, however, going to Europe over the summer.)
10.My dad never calls me, he lives across the country, he's never made a special effort to see me, I always have to change my plans if I want to see him, he still treats me like a little kid and refuses to let me grow up, he doesn't let me make my own decisions, he frowns upon everything I'm proud of, and he almost never gets me presents for Christmas or my birthday. When he does, it's like a T-Shirt from a resturaunt, or a hotwheels car(which he thinks I still like) or something else.

[4lpha0mega offline]

well i pity you about the english thing, my english teacher likes me and my writing, i'll quote what he put for my last writing project
"Another very good piece of writing from a very talented writer. It is also very accurate in terms of sentance structure, punctuation and spelling. I am impressed."
and about the other stuff then just ignore them, after all, theyre the idiots who are wasting their life, not you
and about the parent thing, then try and show them that your more responsible
and i cant really help about the dad thing, although you could try writing to him every few weeks

[Yumi52Ishiyama offline]

Write? To dad? Pfft.(No offense. Great ideas. Thanks.)

[Little Vili offline]

Sounds real bad, especially the whole "treated as a kid" thing. If you're still 13-15, expect to pretty much be treated like that (well...thats just me). Now Im finally getting some reasonable treatment (age wise). Cheer up, things will get better (not just saying that). If someone looks down upon what you take pride in...its because they want you to do that much better (for yourself..not just themselves)...that...or they're just an a$$.

[KarinBerry offline]

I know that being belittled, insulted, and/or teased by people at school can seem like the worst thing in the world, but believe me when I say it isn't. I speak from experience. As long as all they're using on you is words, you will survive. I was teased and bullied mercilessly by the other kids when I was in grade school. They often made fun of my glasses, my maturing body (I was the first girl to sprout a chest), my overly mature body (in high school, I was the girl with the largest chest), and I guess I was just an easy target, Kids are vicious. They can sniff out the ones who will take the abuse. They never beat me up or pushed me around, thankfully. No, they took out their agressions on my lunchbox and any toys I brought to school with me. In jr. high and high school, they just didn't bother my person or my property.

Once I got to college, it became clear to me just how big the world is. On a campus of 25,000 I finally became invisible, and I realised that I was ok. A little worse for the wear, emotionally, but ok.

The trick I tried when the kids tossed a few mean words my way was this: tell yourself you're a good person. Remind yourself that you've had friends, you have friends, and you'll continue to make friends. Those people who <i>are</i> your friends are the ones who really matter. Anyone else who is going to judge you by your looks is a shallow individual who really isn't worth getting to know in the first place. You <i>certainly</i> shouldn't be worried about gaining approval in their eyes. Their opinion is worth diddly squat.

One more thing to remember about kids: mob mentality. All it takes is for the big man or woman on campus to say something about you, and everyone else will join in to look "cool." I saw that first hand in the fourth grade. The teacher moved the seats around, and a girl who had teased me before got to know me a little, and when one of the boys said something at me, she stood up for me.

The people who know you? They're all you need.


As for your parents, I totally understand you. I'm twenty-five and my dad thinks he can still tell me where to drive my car. It's my own fault for living at home after all this time. Still, I live in his house, and until I can save enough money to live on my own, I have to live by his rules, no matter how stupid they sound. So I clean my room every Thursday and I check with him before I drive to LA.


Your teacher may be trying to encourage you by looking at you. Maybe he thinks you're down on your writing skills and he wants you to know that you can get better with practice.

[Little Vili offline]

Yeah...highschool is a bitch. Though now Im not harrased by the others like I used to be (though its could still be happening behind my back). My motto is "If I dont know about it...say what ever the hell you want about me." Lucky for me...I only have one more year after this one, then its off to college land (sure...50 times more HW...but at least people arent so full of themselves). I've hung around people from college before, when I went to an anime convention, and they are much nicer than any one at highschool. Thank god this year is going by fast.

[4lpha0mega offline]

well i used to get picked on badly in yr 7-8, mostly by the people who i hung around with, but this year the group i hang around with has shed the idiots, and i hang around with a lot of new people, even if im not popular with the popular, and usually stupid, kids, then i've still got good freinds for example this lunchtime one of the popular kids came up to my freind and said "why are you hangin' around with these losers" and he answered "becouse they're my mates"

so dont worry, one day you may wake up and be on top of the world, everything can improve if it has time

[Chad Rains offline]

back at my old school (where I was from 3rd grade up to 8th) I was constantly picked on. it even got bad enough to where I was accused of sexual harassment at one point in 6th grade (a simple conference with the principal cleared that one right up). i really didnt mature till 8th grade. at that point I had a fairly small group of friends in which we hung out together alot and tended to stick together alot (it probably also helps that one of my friends mom's is very good friends with my mom).

in high school, that pretty much all changed (for better or worse, I dont know). in 9th grade, due to some financial issues, we had to move, and at the time could only find a house a few towns over. thus I had to change schools. during the next 4 years, i really didnt have too many friends, stayed quiet and kept to myself. for the most part, this tneded to keep any conflicts between me and other students to a minimal.

the only real good thing I can say that the new school gave me was more in depth study into computers with various classes such as a "basic understanding of computers" class (which for the most part I already knew at the time, but it mainly helped as reinforcement), engineering drawing (for the most part, it wasnt too much related to computers, but it got me started with CAD and Mech. Desktop), computer graphics (beginners 3d graphics course. familiarized myself with 3d studio max), and beginning broadcasting (at the time I took it, the whole setup was digital with the editing suite based on adobe premiere. this is where my expertise with the program started).

for time reference, I graduated this past June and im currently taking college course online at home.

[Yumi52Ishiyama offline]

Thanks, guys.

Yeah. I'm in 8th grade...I can't wait to leave. I live in the middle of nowhere. My life was perfect until I moved. But this year, I'm hanging out with these people who are smart(except the one with imaginary bunnies), creative, and don't care what people think. It's better than previous years, but it still isn't that lovely.

[Stonecreek]

Just think of it this way - it can only get better, right?

Oh, and things I'm unhappy about? Only being on LF sporadically the next 3 1/2 weeks. Darn my home Internet connection!

[Yumi52Ishiyama offline]

Right. Well, it could get worse if my house burned down and my mom died and my aunt and I had no money, but that's most likely not going to happen.

Poor you. My computor is nice to me.

[Hotaru Crowley offline]

That really sux, last year I had the worst year ever. I began writting down my feelings as song lyrics, it made me feel sooo much better!

[Overcaffeinated Sloth offline]

Wow, sounds a lot like me. My mother expects me to do everything she says to never talk back, or to always agree completely with her. She insults my friends and thinks I agree. I came downstairs one morning and she was watching TV. She looked up and said "Look at these Kids!" It was just a picture of someone with a black t-shirt over a red long sleeved shirt. I looked down, and I was wearing a black t'shirt with a pink long sleeved shirt underneath it to. She said I couldn't go to school until I canged, and got to school late.

And my sixth grade teacher imagined things, always saying I was swearing and giving dirty looks. She failed me for no reason. I'm still trying to compensate for that. Her name was Mrs. Dolmitrz, bit I just called her something else starting with a b.

Trust me, I truly sympathise for you.

[Yumi52Ishiyama offline]

My mom won't buy me black nail polish. She thinks I'll turn goth. She couldn't be more wrong.

Yeah, I write songs and poems to get it all out. My friend says I have a potential as a songwriter. then again, she also said I'd make a good special needs teacher. We have our lives planned out. We'll both be famous authors, and go one talk shows together. We'll have perfect lives, and own all the popular idiots who made fun of us.

[Dr. Ezra offline]

My mom won't buy me black nail polish. She thinks I'll turn goth. She couldn't be more wrong.

Wow. I'm sorry. I Hope you're able to work that out with her.

[5188148 offline]

My recomendation on the bullying thing: ignore them completely. Keep up whatever you're doing, or do something mundane, like fix your fair or crack your knuckles. When they get in your way, walk into them once and then nonchalantly shove them aside.

Also, find people to hang out with. They're there, even if not in your school. For me, it was the nerds: most of them admired me anyways (seriously), so when I got in with them, they accepted me and most of them had friends who were jocks, so now I'm in with the jocks as well, most of whom are willing to stand up for me if pushed.

[Just_Jaine offline]

My mom still treats me like I’m five. I use to have a crazy seven thirty bedtime. I was in sixth grade then too. But that is changing over time. Now I go to bed at nine because of homework.

As for you English teacher hating you, I doubt it. Last year my friend thought the same thing because she was getting low grades on good papers. She was an excellent writer. She wrote two novels which were wonderful. Stick with your dream, even if you and you teacher don’t get along that is no reason to stop you from become a writer.

Ignoring the bullies only works for so long.(Do it while you can) I was bullied for three year, including this year.(I'm in eight grade too.) The same guy is in my math class and he sits in front of me. Gerr math class is torture plus I have no friends in this class. If it wasn't for this kid who knows the difference having a little fun and really hurting someone’s feelings, he stands up for me, I don’t know what I would do. What I normally do when he teases me is read. I can at least pretend like I can't hear him. The only bad part about this is he normally teases me about how much to read.

[Cecilia offline]

-pat pat- Don't let life get you down, k? The years that you spend as a kid/teen are limited; enjoy them while you can.

-whistle- After all...you don't want to go insane like me, do ya? -stares-

But, in all honesty, things do and will get better.

As for writing...even if he does single you out, remember that he's just one person. There are, literally, billions of people that haven't read what you've written; opinions vary. It's all about making your works of art and literature available to the masses.

-was tortured as a child- Yeah. The kids in my old school tried to get me expelled by making up death threats and saying that I sent them. Didn't work, but afterwards I didn't trust anyone...only recently have I opened up...and I'm sorta laughing for the four years that I never smiled.

...

[5188148 offline]

You can't very well ignore someone for three years straight, point. But unless they're an incredibly strong person (in which case they wouldn't be bullying), or a weak person with incredibly strong beliefs (like, anti-gay hatred), they'll probably relent after a few weeks of having insults be reflected back.

I know a guy named Jake, who was a genuine bully to me last year, but somehow I showed him I'm not weak, not a poseur, by blowing him off completely or throwing his own game back at him. It worked, and now we're friends.

About the getting expelled thing, I've had that happen tenfold: a girl at my school accused me, openly, of sexual harrassment. I openly denied it, and my word won (she's a lowlife troublemaker, as are a lot of bullies). About a week later, I found a hate note in my locker and turned it in to the principle, who did some handwriting analysis and found a match. That girl got called in and I think heard "expulsion" and came rushing to me and apologized. So, I now have a little trump card.

Of course, that might not work for you, as I am one of two GT students at a school without a GT program, so the school has to kiss my and my family's ass so that we won't call in the state. Also, if you are in a position like that, it's an amazing trump card if you play it right.

[Just_Jaine offline]

You can't very well ignore someone for three years straight, point. But unless they're an incredibly strong person (in which case they wouldn't be bullying), or a weak person with incredibly strong beliefs (like, anti-gay hatred), they'll probably relent after a few weeks of having insults be reflected back.

I think the guy, his name happens to be Jake too, must really hate my guts and love basketball. The entire reason he started to teases me was because he wanted to talk about the Lakers during a class meting. I disagreed, the point of a class meting is to bridge differences in the class room and make decisions like are we going to do valentines this year. Anyway I told the class that I thought the discussion should get back on topic. I guess his strong belief was in basketball, though it makes no sense to me. Then I just became and Easy victim. If had been able to stand up to him then he might have stopped, but crying in the bathroom and coming in all read eyed dose not help. Neither did loosing both my best friends.

O well,
Life goes on
Things change
In the end
Every thing will turn out
For better or for worse

For Yumi52Ishiyama:
Maybe you could make a list of what you want for your birthday and Christmas and send it to him as a reminder as well as to help you get what you want.

[The BB of C offline]

Well, here they are.
1.My best friend moved. This is the fifth time it's happened since I moved five years ago.
2.I think I like the guy she likes. She asked me to "keep an eye on him". Oh shoot.
3. I also think I like someone I haven't even met. He's my friend's friend, and I've talked to him online.
4.My parents are completely over-protective. They still treat me like a kid. My mom counts to three when I don't do what she says.
5. Everyone at my school(mainly boys)tease me, and call me ugly.
6. The guys I used to like(who are best friends) always are like, "No one likes you, I hate you, my best friend told me not to talk to you."
7.My English teacher hates me. He's a moron. Like, It's been my dream since I was three to be a writer, and everytime he's talking about how no one is a perfect writer, and we can all improve, he looks at me. As if I'm the worst writer in the class or something! He wouldn't know good writing if it bit him in the overlarge butt.
8.My other friend has two imaginary bunnies. I can never kill them. It's so frustrating.(Yes, she's crazy :D )
9.My mom says I can't go to Japan because of the bird flu. (I am, however, going to Europe over the summer.)
10.My dad never calls me, he lives across the country, he's never made a special effort to see me, I always have to change my plans if I want to see him, he still treats me like a little kid and refuses to let me grow up, he doesn't let me make my own decisions, he frowns upon everything I'm proud of, and he almost never gets me presents for Christmas or my birthday. When he does, it's like a T-Shirt from a resturaunt, or a hotwheels car(which he thinks I still like) or something else.

1) That's so sad. You aren't able to keep in contact with her at all?
2) I'm not sure what to make of that.
3) That can never be good.
4) You'll see that they had a good reason for that when you hit 26.
5) I may not know you, but that happened to me. We may have entirely different cases, and this is just me, but it worked best for me when I simply accepted it. Then, I lost weight, my face thinned, I grew some nice sideburns, my personality normaled right up, and I am now one of the most accepted people in my school.
6) Same previous response.
7) That's called favoritism and emotional abuse, you can get them in serious trouble for that.
8) She definately needs your help and I'm afraid you're the only one who can help her. Killing the rabbits won't do it.
9) She's right, I'd wait a few years before you get too close to Japan.
10) Tell your father that you have grown up. Sit him down, tell him that, what you like, and that you deserve a little more respect. I did that, he brought up my horrid report card. If that happens, tell him that report card doesn't say crap about your personality. If he brings up past experiences, tell him you've learned from your mistakes and you have grown from them. Also, if he doesn't like what you're proud of, then that's too bad for him. Lay it down straight (without being disrespectful) that you are going to do it anyway reguardless of what you think.
Complete the previous list. Then, when everything on this list is done, you will be the proudest, happiest person on the planet, and ABSOLUTELY NOBODY with the acception to death itself will be able to stop you.