Stuck in a jam

[killermusic900 offline]

This one's a toughie: At school, a girl today told that she liked me, and want's me to be her boyfriend. No problem, but there's another girl who has liked me since second grade, but is too shy to talk about it. (too many details to tell on how I know.) I barely know the first one, but the girl who has liked me for a long time is better friends with me, and i kinda like her too, (I would say something to her, but that wouldn't solve her shyness, and I don't want her to be shy.) I don't want to hurt anybodies feelings.


WHAT TO DOOOOOOOOOO?????


Plz help me on this.

[Ransomed_Heart offline]

Well, you could just not date either of them, which would solve your dilemma (though it risks breaking both of their hearts as a downside..) There really isn't a way to get out of this without hurting anyone

Having been a in this situation before (as one of the two who wanted to date the guy), I can say that you should just follow your heart. Think about it, don't rush into anything, and go with the girl you want to get to know more. But you may have to be ready to defend your choice, so be ready if the girl you don't pick wants an explanation, as she very well might.

I can't imagine anyone getting angry with you over this though, so don't fret too much. If the girl who came out and told you gets mad, then she must not like you enough to accept your feelings, and if your long-time friend gets mad (especially since she didn't even tell you herself from how it sounds) then the same applies to her.

[Overcaffeinated Sloth offline]

This happened to me last year. Two boys said they loved me, and asked me out. But I ended up getting too nervous and scared and lied, saying I had a Rape Aggression Defense class, which I finished the day before. I felt bad, but saw them the next year. I danced with one (The shorter one with red hair, kind of funny, but became a bit of a pervert) We went out on one date, he tried to kiss me, and I kicked him and ran away. Thanks to those Rape Aggression Defense classes that allowed me to turn him down earlier.
Then I went out with the other one (Taller than me, cuter, athletic, but not as funny.) We went to the movies, he kissed me, then tried to do something else. *Not tellin' what, you can guess* I punched, kicked, and ran away. Once again thanks to that Rape Defense Class.
In the end, I dumped both of them, too the advancced RAD class, and fell heel over heads for another boy. Who is hot, funny, likes the same stuff I like, athletic, and Loves CODE LYOKO!!!

So to conclude, Romances complicate things. I suggest you just step off a bit, and mabey see if this is what you really want.

And as a girl, I give you this advice: Most girls who are shy, like you, but don't say anything are most likely to like you a lot. That's what I'm like now. But Girls who run up to you and saythey like you and wan to be B n' G are most likely lying, trying to torment you, or make you feel better about yousel. Something I once did. Al I can say is step back a bit.

[kindpastor offline]

Date the non-shy one until the relationship ends and then pick up with the shy one saying "I should've picked you all along"--yeah, that way you get the best of both worlds.

[Overcaffeinated Sloth offline]

Date the non-shy one until the relationship ends and then pick up with the shy one saying "I should've picked you all along"--yeah, that way you get the best of both worlds.

*Sigh* You are such a guy.
You never do that! It just shows something went rong, and the shier one is second choice, second rate, and you're just looking for somthing to call a girlfriend.

[Ransomed_Heart offline]

Date the non-shy one until the relationship ends and then pick up with the shy one saying "I should've picked you all along"--yeah, that way you get the best of both worlds.

No hon, that's the way you come off as insensitve and self-serving. Doing that will probably result in both girls thinking less of you, and it would only work in the first place on the assumption that the girl who is initially rejected hasn't moved on.

[Little Vili offline]

but there's another girl who has liked me since second grade, but is too shy to talk about it. (too many details to tell on how I know.) I barely know the first one, but the girl who has liked me for a long time is better friends with me, and i kinda like her too

Then there is your answer right there. In my opinion, you always go with the girl you know, things tend to work out better than way. I used to like girls just because of their looks (like back in 7th and 8th grade), after a while, I came to realize, that it would have never worked out.

Date the non-shy one until the relationship ends and then pick up with the shy one saying "I should've picked you all along"--yeah, that way you get the best of both worlds.

No hon, that's the way you come off as insensitve and self-serving. Doing that will probably result in both girls thinking less of you, and it would only work in the first place on the assumption that the girl who is initially rejected hasn't moved on.

Yes, a very good point indeed. You dont want girls to think your some guy just looking for a piece of (you get the idea).

[Chosen_one offline]

Three girls asked me out.

Two of them were popular for some strange reason, and the other one was rather disturbing.

I rejected both of them because I didn't know them and they weren't friendly.

So date the shy one that you've known for a long time because you know that she's friendly.

Dating's almost worthless if in the end you find out your girlfriend's a total jerk.

[Osiris offline]

I agree with little vili if you already like the shy one them she might be the one for you. if you don't know the other girl that well she might not be a good choice. but the best advise i can give is follw your heart

[Delritho offline]

Ok usally I would just say date both of them or just laugh at you....But since I don't feel like doing that I would say that if you like the Shy one just start talking to her more often. Hopefully in time she will become less shy and tell you that she likes you...If not then..Theres always the othre one I suppose....But anyway I have to agree with the others here and say follow your heart....

[Yumi52Ishiyama offline]

Go for the shy one. I wouldn't know how you feel, all the guys at school are either jerks who hate me or are too shy to ask me out, but I know how she must feel. Last year, the guy I liked, who just happened to be my neighbor, went out with two girls, who weren't me. I was devastated, and I'd only liked him for a year. Besides, it's best if you know them well. It means you'll be more comfortable around them.

[Overcaffeinated Sloth offline]

I agree with little vili if you already like the shy one them she might be the one for you. if you don't know the other girl that well she might not be a good choice. but the best advise i can give is follw your heart

If he was following his heart, he wouldn't be in Jelly, so he wouldn't need to post it here.

[Lyokofreak offline]

This happened to me last year. Two boys said they loved me, and asked me out. But I ended up getting too nervous and scared and lied, saying I had a Rape Aggression Defense class, which I finished the day before. I felt bad, but saw them the next year. I danced with one (The shorter one with red hair, kind of funny, but became a bit of a pervert) We went out on one date, he tried to kiss me, and I kicked him and ran away. Thanks to those Rape Aggression Defense classes that allowed me to turn him down earlier.
Then I went out with the other one (Taller than me, cuter, athletic, but not as funny.) We went to the movies, he kissed me, then tried to do something else. *Not tellin' what, you can guess* I punched, kicked, and ran away. Once again thanks to that Rape Defense Class.
In the end, I dumped both of them, too the advancced RAD class, and fell heel over heads for another boy. Who is hot, funny, likes the same stuff I like, athletic, and Loves CODE LYOKO!!!

So to conclude, Romances complicate things. I suggest you just step off a bit, and mabey see if this is what you really want.

And as a girl, I give you this advice: Most girls who are shy, like you, but don't say anything are most likely to like you a lot. That's what I'm like now. But Girls who run up to you and saythey like you and wan to be B n' G are most likely lying, trying to torment you, or make you feel better about yousel. Something I once did. Al I can say is step back a bit.

I can't blame you for defending yorself
What town do you live in ?
From what i see, you're a bit paranoid
I've never heard of Rape Agression Defense class before...
And nice, kick some more @$$

[Overcaffeinated Sloth offline]

Yeah, since the class. It was fun.
And now you know where I get my spykeyness.
But as to this, it seems people are leaning towards the shier one, and also a little more fantisized.

[blackyumi offline]

I would never date popalar people.

[Little Vili offline]

I would never date popalar people.

You probably say that because of the stereo type that people have labeled them with; being stuck up, obnoctious (sp?), b*tchy, full-of-themselves...the list goes on.

Though a lot of the time, this may be true, some popular people are actually nice people. You just have to look. Who knows, your reasons could be different, I just wanted to point this out.

[Yumi52Ishiyama offline]

I agree with blackyumi. The popular guys at my school are jerks. They act nice, but they talk about you behind your back. These two guys made fun of a girl with downs syndrome on the bus in sixth grade. They always call me ugly when I'm not around, and then their little follower-buddies tell me to my "ugly-a** " face what they said. Go with non-popular kids, folks. Life lesson. Someday, you'll own them, so don't be them.

[Chosen_one offline]

I would never date popalar people.

You probably say that because of the stereo type that people have labeled them with; being stuck up, obnoctious (sp?), b*tchy, full-of-themselves...the list goes on.

Though a lot of the time, this may be true, some popular people are actually nice people. You just have to look. Who knows, your reasons could be different, I just wanted to point this out.

I agree with that. I hate most popular people because they try to act like they're better than most people just 'cause they're popular, but not all popular people act like that or want to be popular.

I was popular at one time for some strange reason (people thought my name was weird), but I never wanted to be.

[jym2 offline]

3 things to think about/ consider

1-who likes YOU more or who yu are
2-who do YOU like more for who they are
3-what do YOU think is best

[KayLenny#7 offline]

Pick one, let the other girl down gently. Having your heart broken a few times ends up making a person oblivious to pain after a while.

[Overcaffeinated Sloth offline]

I would never date popalar people.

You probably say that because of the stereo type that people have labeled them with; being stuck up, obnoctious (sp?), b*tchy, full-of-themselves...the list goes on.

Though a lot of the time, this may be true, some popular people are actually nice people. You just have to look. Who knows, your reasons could be different, I just wanted to point this out.

I agree with that. I hate most popular people because they try to act like they're better than most people just 'cause they're popular, but not all popular people act like that or want to be popular.

I was popular at one time for some strange reason (people thought my name was weird), but I never wanted to be.

Blech!
Take it from the paragraph above.
POPULAR PEOPLE SUCK OUT LOUD ON ICE!
And people thought I was weird for hanving a long name too. And I was the twin of Someone named Madeline because we were both depressed. Do Jacqueline and Madeline sound alike?
The difference is two letters!

[blackyumi offline]

all the pouplar people just push you around
they even spread roomers about me

[Just_Jaine offline]

I agree popular people suck; but before you judge people by their group make sure they know they are doing/ hanging out with people that to mean things. Thats kind of cornfusing so my advice would be stick with the shy one if you like her.

[DeadViolet offline]

never trust men. they are sick pigs. except cartoon guys(maybe miroku..)

[Delritho offline]

never trust men. they are sick pigs. except cartoon guys(maybe miroku..)

That is mean and untrue...I am a Man and I am trustworthy...as long as you don't piss me off.....But I dislike popular people becase they spread rumors about me being gay.....Which REALLY pissed me off.....