okay so long ago, back when I was nine and niaeve (or however you spell that word) by best friend, whom I had known since the day I was born (we're only a couple months apart and our parents were, and still are, very good friends) told me that he wanted to kiss me. We were camping and he wanted to know what is was like to kiss a girl. I was slightly reluctant because my mom had told me I wasn't allowd to date my best friend (or, at nine, love) but never gave me a reason and I really never questioned her. our whole "secret relationship" last about four years, from when I was nine til he got a real girlfriend when he turned fourteen (we didn't really do anything aside from make out, although he had suggested several times we go further but I always refused).
it was, maybe a year ago, I was at his house, he had wanted make out on his couch and I told him I wouldn't because he was dating a girl. He told me that they had broken up and that he really loved me. I was happy, because I thought he really cared.
I found out later that yeah, he'd broken up with his girlfriend, but failed to mention that right after he gotten a new one.
He had apoligized, said It was one of those spur of the moment things. And really I understand how he is. he's always been a bit of a ladies man and he likes the attention so honestly, I'm not mad at him, now that he's gotten a steady girlfriend he become more of an older brother figure to me, he's always joking and laughing with me.
but I've always felt guilty about kissing another womans boyfriend. And it really hurt me emotionally when I found out. So to deal with it I started hanging out with boys so they would see me as one of them and I could avoid them ever liking me so I wouldn't get hurt again.
okay, so the moral of the story...
it all started a few months ago when this boy who I was friends with ask me to go to the movies (as friends, he assured me) on valentines day. So I brought my friend along with me (whom we call Bengay. cause his names Ben and he's gay. But he's the one who picked the name). and we went and saw jumper and fools gold. a while after that the three of us went again to see 21 and superhero movie. this was about the time that the entire science class this boy and I shared thought we were going out. his friends and my friends also told us that we should go out. so, jokingly, I became his "hypothetical" girlfriend.
Well it was this friday at color day for my school (which is just one big party) our friends were jokingly taking pictures of us and I was laughing along with them. At the very end of the day as him and I were walking toward the gym for the final event of the day, he asked me how I felt about being his real girlfriend.
now he knows what happened with me and my friend, knows how I felt, and knows that I really don't want to feel like that again, so when I didn't answer he told me I didn't have to right now and that maybe I could just think on it.
this saturday we're going to dinner and then going to see a movie. And I'm really not sure how to tell him that yeah, I'd like to. I mean he's a real nice guy, the other day he brought me breakfast, and, when he found out I had insomnia, he always makes sure I'm getting enough sleep. and tells me that if I ever need him, he always leaves his phone on at night in case I need someone to talk to. and it not that I don't like him..i mean...i do.
but really its just that I've spent so much time around boys I don't know how to...express...my feelings
and then there's that fear that he'll turn out to be just like my friend.
so maybe you guys can help me out. what do I do?
mean while I'll spend time trying to figure out when this "hypothetical" relationship became so complicated...