Performing.... Favors...

[Chosen_one offline]

About .3 seconds. I only read this thread a few minutes ago.

[Paige offline]

It would be a totally fun thread if someone made something about the kinds of favors that most girls get asked to do... for their boyfriends. Like in BKO. Because I def. cannot say them in this thread.

[The BB of C offline]

That pretty much goes without saying.

[Chosen_one offline]

Ugh... I get sick just thinking about it...
...but it could be fun if handled maturely.

[The BB of C offline]

Definately. Then TB3 would show up and guess where the whole thing goes.

[codeTONY offline]

Ah. I just wanted to say this (even thought it's late) that you did the right thing.
Most people wouldn't recognize it, but that is an abusive relationship. If he does ask again, then it's abuse, especially if you don't want to, or are uncomfortable with it. I’m glad to hear you set the rules with him, and threatened him to walk away if he did.

Again, sorry it’s late, but good job.

[Paige offline]

Thank you very much. Yeah, the relationship I had before him, I let the guy take COMPLETE and TOTAL advantage of me. But luckily, I am still a virgin. But still, I cannot believe I did some of the things that I did with him. I started this relationship with a fresh outlook on what I wanted and DID NOT want, and I let him know that. He didn't run away when I told him that there would be NO WAY that I would be having sex with him, he totally understood, and respected that... and yes, he's been respectful to my standards, and hasn't tried anything.... out of line. He lets me call the shots now. And that's the way I like it.

[TB3]

Definately. Then TB3 would show up and guess where the whole thing goes.

Ahem!

[Paige offline]

Ugh... I get sick just thinking about it...
...but it could be fun if handled maturely.

Thinking about what?
Sex?

Haha, that's awesome. I've never known someone to feel queesy at the thought of sex... excited, scared maybe. But not queesy.

[The BB of C offline]

I do, only if it's my parents talking about it. Otherwise I have no problem.

Definately. Then TB3 would show up and guess where the whole thing goes.

Ahem!

You heard me

[DarkestSoul X21 offline]

[The BB of C offline]

The mention of anything even suggestive around them makes my adrenal glands go crazy. I hate that so much.

[Paige offline]

omigosh! Hahaha. My mom like walks in my room while I'm doing homeowrk or something or when we are just sitting on the couch watching tv. And she just starts talking about condoms, spermicide foam, anything that protects against pregnancy. And she also talks about what guys do, and what guys feel, and what goes on for them during sex. And then, she talks about it from a girl's point of view, and then she tells us not to have sex until we are at least not living at her house anymore. I mean, this happens like... at random times. She just starts talking about how we should protect ourselves. She also starts talking about our periods and tampons and things like that. I think she mostly does it to annoy my dad, but usually me and my sisters will have something to say in response to what my mom is talking about, and then it makes my dad even more uncomfortable. But I've learned a lot from those talks.

[The BB of C offline]

Oh no! I would have died right then and there. I would have had a heart attack and simply croaked.

[Paige offline]

No way! I look forward to them! I always have something to say about it, and I can always ask ANYTHING i need to know. Seriously, anything. And they are just very insightful little talks. Especially when Beth is around, she always puts her two cents in, and it gets a little carried away sometimes... but, it's always so fun.

[The BB of C offline]

I couldn't imagine being able to do that.

[mooshie offline]

I can see how that could be helpful, insightful, but for me and a lot of other kids I know it would be a tad bit awkward, especially when you add in the random time factor

[Paige offline]

ha, but that is definitely what makes it even better! it's never awkward... ever... i don't understand why people will feel awkward around their own FAMILIES. what the heck is up with that?

[mooshie offline]

I think the reason for it being awkward is that the parents are quite often viewed as just authority figures, not famil, so if you can view them as family good for you

[Xieon offline]

What do you do when a guy is pressuring you into performing sexual favors for him?

I honestly didn't know what to do in that situation when it came up.

Alright. So here is what happened. I was at church with my boyfriend and we were sitting on the couch when he said, "You want to go somewhere where there aren't too many people?" And I didn't really... 'get' what he was asking, so I replied, "Why? Do you have a headache?" Then he said, "No, I want to go somewhere where we can be alone.... just the two of us." And Then I said okay. So he led me out of the youth room, and then we went into this room that didn't have any lights on, and there wasn't anyone in there, and then I sat down on the couch that was in there, just expecting to make out a little. But then he like pushed me down onto the couch, [gently though] and then he was like asking me to... perform sexual favors for him. And I just pushed him off of me and left the room. And I didn't see him for the rest of the night. But then the next day, he pretended like it never happened, and so I pretended like nothing happened. And I like this kid so much. So I'm not just going to break up with him.

But what I am asking you kids, is what you would do if the situation comes up again. Like, other than just leaving him, because I'm not going to do that.

If you are not ready, just tell him that. Wait untill you get to highschool, where all the girls are you know, and every weekend its getting drunk and doing stuff with people you don't like for no reason other than because you can.

Enjoy innocence while it lasts.

[mooshie offline]

well the problem with that mentality is it encourages people to be nostalgic about their childhoods when not everything was actually all that great, but back on topic, without being so naive as to believe that you will always be a chaste little angel, or being so bold as to condone pre-marital sex, all I'm going to say is make sure that your first time is with someone you really care about, a way to test if he really cares about you, is if you do do it with him, say you're <i>late</i>, that's all the advice I can think of right now