i moved and now everything is different

[strok3d offline]

About a year ago i moved to tampa. I thought it would be nice. But no. I went to my school and everyone calls me gay and they have been calling me that for the whole school year! i try to make them stop but they wont. And on top of that there is probably only 1 or two people who are my friends here and i am not even sure if they are.

[Jeremified offline]

You know what?
I'm getting creeped out by you guys! I have the exact same problems that everybody else has!
Well, join the club. I moved from the best state in the country (Virginia) to where all my dad's relatives are (someplace in the SW area). When I was in Virginia, I counted at least 20 friends- they were all great. Now as I count my friends over here at my new home state, well... I have 2 friends at school and 1 friend in my (FORMER) neighborhood. Oh joy... 3 friends. And I get made fun of too!
Basically what I'm saying is, you're not alone.

[mooshie offline]

well, I know what you're going through, I used to move like once every two years, well best wishes, hope you don't develope apathy like I did

[Tom Bone offline]

I hear ya, strok3d, people call me gay all the time. People in my schools treat gays like they weren't even human. Whenever someone someone does something wrong or is the slightest bit different than anyone else, it's all "oh, that kid's gay." They call my friend J.P. "Gay Pee". Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against gays; i know one. My suggestion is to not care what they say and to remember who you truly are--a truly unique indivdual.

[Zaeryth offline]

Wow, that's harsh. I can't say I know how that feels, but I have a friend who gets that kind of crap all the time. Here's my advice: People who judge you without even bothering to get to know you aren't worth your time. Feel fortunate that those people aren't your friends. Instead of getting as many friends as you can, try and make a few really really good friends. After all, would you rather have a bunch of friends who don't care about you, or would you rather have 1 or 2 really good friends who care about you no matter what?

[Tom Bone offline]

Wow, that's harsh. I can't say I know how that feels, but I have a friend who gets that kind of crap all the time. Here's my advice: People who judge you without even bothering to get to know you aren't worth your time. Feel fortunate that those people aren't your friends. Instead of getting as many friends as you can, try and make a few really really good friends. After all, would you rather have a bunch of friends who don't care about you, or would you rather have 1 or 2 really good friends who care about you no matter what?

That's what I was trying to say...

[Zaeryth offline]

Wow, that's harsh. I can't say I know how that feels, but I have a friend who gets that kind of crap all the time. Here's my advice: People who judge you without even bothering to get to know you aren't worth your time. Feel fortunate that those people aren't your friends. Instead of getting as many friends as you can, try and make a few really really good friends. After all, would you rather have a bunch of friends who don't care about you, or would you rather have 1 or 2 really good friends who care about you no matter what?

That's what I was trying to say...

Great minds think alike! ^^

[strok3d offline]

thats my problem nobody likes me everyone thinks i am a feak and whenever i try to make new friends people tell them im gay

[Tom Bone offline]

That's my problem, too! Just be yourself--where people would notice--then perhaps, they would open up to you.

[. offline]

Screw them. It's not worth your effort to try and make ignorant jerks like you. You don't want thoes people to like you anyway, they're poison.

I was heading down your roads once, and then I made a name for myself as kinda nice-yet-crazy-tough guy. No one says anything negative about me now and yeah I have many friendship acuitances. However they're jerks and wouldn't care if I was living or dead. All they care is that I do stuff to entertain them.

It sickens me actually. Don't do what I did, because in the end it's not worth it. It's not worth it to get the jerks to like you only not to care when you need them the most.

[odd girl offline]

thats my problem nobody likes me everyone thinks i am a feak and whenever i try to make new friends people tell them im gay

Awwwww, don't worry about it, i'm treated the same way in my school, and i've only got 3-4 best friends.

what my mom always says to me is, whatever they call you they must be themselves, so just ignore it ok?

[Skiiran Lord offline]

My advice (and I'm sorry if I'm being blunt): Live with it. It's the same across the country, if not the WORLD. Young people are arrogant homophobes who let their little minds run rampant with insults to hand you on a platter of bronze. I'll admit, I only know about the insulting bit, seeing as I've had a set of loyal friends since Pre-K, but still, just be thankful for what you have already. It could be gone tomorrow.

[Paige offline]

I just moved about 8 months ago to a totally different state. I lived in Florida for 12 years, and then all the sudden we just up and moved here to Tennessee. I am a very optimistic and outgoing person, so I made acquaintances easily. But it wasn't until about 2 months later when those people started being my friends. And now I have a lot of friends. I talk to everyone and anyone, and everyone on my team knows me, and it's fun now at school. Too bad it's ending in two weeks.

I think, next year you should try a whole different approach. Try to be more optimistic. And confident. People will see that, and they will appreciate that, and most will leave you alone. Also, sometimes you have to take the initiative to make new friends. Don't wait for people to come to you. Also, you can't just go up to someone and be like, "Alright. We are going to be friends now." Making friends just... happens. You can't plan it. Also, try to be more outgoing. By making an effort to make friends, and putting yourself out there, someone has got to be like, "Hey, that kid seems pretty cool. Maybe I should hang with them more." I mean, if I saw a new kid at my school actually making an effort to talk to people, and be friendly, I would totally hang out with them. I wish that happens more often. Some new kids come, and then they expect others to make friends with them first, and they shouldn't be making friends, it should be the others coming to them. I know I thought that, but that quickly changed after about 4 years of going to 4 different schools.

My advice (and I'm sorry if I'm being blunt): Live with it. It's the same across the country, if not the WORLD. Young people are arrogant homophobes who let their little minds run rampant with insults to hand you on a platter of bronze. I'll admit, I only know about the insulting bit, seeing as I've had a set of loyal friends since Pre-K, but still, just be thankful for what you have already. It could be gone tomorrow.

You know, not ALL people are like that. I am in NO way homophobic, and I would NEVER tell an innocent person who never did anything to me that he was gay. I always try to make an attempt to make friends with everyone I meet. That is just how I am. I wish all people were like that. It would be so much easier to live with middle school.


Also, Stok3d, are you by any chance, in sixth grade?

[The BB of C offline]

That's my problem, too! Just be yourself--where people would notice--then perhaps, they would open up to you.

That doesn't work as much as we like to think it does.

Screw them. It's not worth your effort to try and make ignorant jerks like you. You don't want thoes people to like you anyway, they're poison.

I was heading down your roads once, and then I made a name for myself as kinda nice-yet-crazy-tough guy. No one says anything negative about me now and yeah I have many friendship acuitances. However they're jerks and wouldn't care if I was living or dead. All they care is that I do stuff to entertain them.

It sickens me actually. Don't do what I did, because in the end it's not worth it. It's not worth it to get the jerks to like you only not to care when you need them the most.

The world isn't in a state where people can trust people anymore. It doesn't matter what you did if you did anything. You're the only person you can ever trust fully. The more you trust in yourself and yourself only, the more confident you become. The more confident you become in yourself, the better vibes you give off to the people around you. Also, the only way you'll ever get someone to fully stop, is if you beat them up. When you show superiority to someone, not only will that person learn to respect you, but so will other people.
I used to be in the same situations that most of you are talking about. Instead of letting it get to me and whining about it to people online, I took the initiative, the risks, and the challenges (emotional, mental, phisical) that I needed to gain the respect of my peers. There is absolutly no reason on the planet that you can't do the same if you truly want it.

[flare offline]

About a year ago i moved to tampa. I thought it would be nice. But no. I went to my school and everyone calls me gay and they have been calling me that for the whole school year! i try to make them stop but they wont. And on top of that there is probably only 1 or two people who are my friends here and i am not even sure if they are.

same here it sucks

[Chosen_one offline]

Why do they call you gay?

I know how you feel. I've lived in three countries in my life. When I first moved to America, people made fun of me for not knowing American culture. In fact, they still do. When you're constantly moving from country to country, one would think that you'd learn a lot. But you have so much to learn, that eventually you know nothing.

I'm really sorry that you had to move, and I'm really sorry that only one or two people are your friend(s). Believe me; I know what it's like to not have friends. It's horrible.

I hope it gets better for you soon.