lost identity

[Jeshibo offline]

I've had this problem since last year. It never seems to get any better. I have a really bad anxiety disorder. It makes me feel constantly sick. It's changing who i am. I cant go to class, i cant perform my isntruments, and i cant relax at all. I feel like i am losing myself. What should i do? None of the medication i've tried has worked. I have a psychologist. I feel like nobody else in the world except some freak in an asylum could relate to me. My life just seems to be on a 1-way road to hell these days. Dont get me wrong, i know there are people much worse off than me. But it's still hard. My mother, who i moved out from last october, still gives me grief. i have lost all my friends to the powers of popularity. my family looks down on me with disgrace. how could things get any worse? I've went to perfect straight A student to nurse's pet. I'm such a loser.

[Tom Bone offline]

I know how you feel. My brain has extremely high levels of anger and anxiety. It stinks, doesn't it? What helps me is just to do the things you, love doing and all the sadness will go away, temporerally, for the most part. I hope that helps. *hugs*.

[The BB of C offline]

You're most likely losing it from pressure of your popularity and family. You need to simply set everything down. I mean EVERYTHING. Focus on finishing this year of school and only that. Once that's done, take this summer off from everthing. It will give you a chance to sit down for a while, and regather yourself. Also, if you're not getting a lot of exercise, you should do that too. A tune body is easily linked with a tune mind.

[*Star* Gazer offline]

Whoa Nelly......I DEFINITELY know how you feel.


Just talk about it to your friends, better yet your family. They can always help.

If I'm right I think you have depression....or something else you can't cope with.

Just let it all go. And ALL OF IT. Even 1 tiny thing will bother you if you let it off. And here's a tip, if you have done something wrong, and you've stopped doing it and you till bothered by it. Just let it go. It's in the past, your not doing it anymore. And if you do it again. Start Over and STOP.

As for the popularity thing. I can't help ya there. I'm one of those, people who you judge by looking at how they act.

I'm a CRAZY teenager. So I don't know. I barely have friends. So I know how you feel on the 'No Friends' thing. Trust me, if you have pets, their your best friend. And so is your family. Even if they don't like the way your acting. I just think they wish you were going down the path they wished for you to go down.

I have nothing else. :3

Hope it helps!

[The BB of C offline]

That's nothing compared to this! He said something about his family looking down on him as a disgrace. So don't talk to them. That won't help at all. Don't take medication to help you with this stuff. It's un-natural and does nothing but mess you up more in the long run. Don't trust psycologists. They have never been in your situation, they don't know what it's like.
Take what I say into serious consideration, Jeshibo, this is you and you alone. No person, medication, or normal psycologist can help you. I don't have a lot of details here so I have to make assumptions. I think that you may have tried really hard to keep everything, your grades, your instruments, your friends and all that together, and you buckled under the pressure. Then, of course your mother giving you grief isn't helping at all. You need to tune it all out, and clear your head for a while. You can do this if you try. Again, take what I say seriously. I've seen your situation before.
From now on:
When you family gives you grief- tune them out.
When things are going wrong- stop, close your eyes, and focus purely on the task at hand.
ALWAYS KEEP A POSITIVE ATTITUDE! Stay as optomistic as possible at all times without becoming delusional. You will become twice as likely to bounce back and brush it off if something went wrong.

Do you think you can do this? I'm hardly getting started if you want more suggestions.

[*Star* Gazer offline]

Yes well, that's plan B but to my plan A, just tell them how you feel then drop them out!

That didn't help but I HAD to say that.

[Jeshibo offline]

It's nice to know that people care. Thanks guys. I dont thinik i've ever had such helpful suggestions! And i was definately thinking the medicine has GOT to go. Man, BB of C, you hit the nail right on the head. Thanks, all of you. I cant even express how nice it is to have people giving me something to go on.

[The BB of C offline]

Yes, believe that about the mdeicine. Me, my older brother, my little brother, my cousin, my uncle, and 6 of my friends were put on medicine on some point in time in their life. It didn't help them or me in any way shape or form. Most of the time it just made things worse. Even if it does help your problem now, it will also do one or both of the following. Having to take medicine can hurt your personal morale. Also, putting the chemicals from the medicine into your brain can cause some long-term side effects that a lot of people don't think of. It can range from anything from depression later in life to a brain tumor! Get off the medicine ASAP.
You're welcome, by the way.
Also, now that you know what you have to do, do you think you can do it?

[Jeshibo offline]

Once things calm down and all, i think so. I'm so incredibly overwhelmed with school on top of all my problems outside of it. maybe once summer hits, i'll be3 able to focus on this problem with a clearer mind (if i still have one left).

[101sissyhater offline]

I've had this problem since last year. It never seems to get any better. I have a really bad anxiety disorder. It makes me feel constantly sick. It's changing who i am. I cant go to class, i cant perform my isntruments, and i cant relax at all. I feel like i am losing myself. What should i do? None of the medication i've tried has worked. I have a psychologist. I feel like nobody else in the world except some freak in an asylum could relate to me. My life just seems to be on a 1-way road to hell these days. Dont get me wrong, i know there are people much worse off than me. But it's still hard. My mother, who i moved out from last october, still gives me grief. i have lost all my friends to the powers of popularity. my family looks down on me with disgrace. how could things get any worse? I've went to perfect straight A student to nurse's pet. I'm such a loser.

*hug* i know how you feel. if ya need to talk to someone just e-mail or IM me. its in my profile. don't worry. i am online alot and will help you if you need anything.

101 says: relax your not crazy

[strok3d offline]

i feel depressed all the time and everyone hates me so i am like a nobody at school. so i know how you feel by the powers of popularity. and... well i hope everything works out. just try to work around it

[The BB of C offline]

Once things calm down and all, i think so. I'm so incredibly overwhelmed with school on top of all my problems outside of it. maybe once summer hits, i'll be3 able to focus on this problem with a clearer mind (if i still have one left).

Like I said, focus on getting through school. You'll know you're focusing on it correctly someone gives you trouble and you simply blow them off 100%.