Gosh darn those two and where they happened to live!

[The BB of C offline]

This is a long story so be prepared.
I think it started about 9 months ago when Hidushikai (my next door neighbor who went on this forum under that name for a little while) met his presant girlfriend, Lola. Lola lives about 1 and 1/2 miles away from us. They both love each other. Lola is a very fun person to be around because she is almost always in a pleasant and joking mood. However, Lola's father does not like Hidushikai. We quickly figured out it's because of Hidushikai's reputation as a fighter, and a darn powerful one too (I would know, believe me)! We're pretty certain that Lola's father is afriad that Hidushikai will go crazy on Lola one day (if you know what I mean) and because he's so good at fighting, Lola won't be able to defend herself. So I can see the guy's logic. But there's three things wrong with it.
1) Hidushikai is very nice to women and would never hurt his girlfriend.
2) He is in no way psycotic in the least bit. He just likes to fight people.
3) Lola also trains Cannon Style with Hidushikai and I. She is very good and more than capable of defending herself.
Time went by and though the two got along, Hidushikai unintentionally continued to develop a bad reputation with Lola's father.
Then, earlier this month, Hidushikai's mother was hit by a drunk driver. Hidushikai became extreamly enraged and somehow connected this guy with his last girlfriend that was run over by a drunk driver and killed about a year ago. This of course just made him angrier. Then, the driver made the stupidest move ever. He came into the hospital to appologise to Hidushikai's mother who just got out of intensive care WHILE HIDUSHIKAI WAS STILL VISITING HER. Hidushikai attacked him and began pumbelling him to pieces. A police officer that was nearby arrested him for assult. He was in jail until the following Sunday when his mother's boyfriend was able to bail him out.
As soon as the news of Hidushikai's arrest got to Lola's father, he set a rule in his house that Hidushikai was no longer in there. Now, Lola has nothing to do because she usually hangs out with him and Hidushikai got ticked because he can't hang out with her very much anymore or else she'll be punished.
One day recnetly while on a rant at school, he accidentally called Lola's father that one particular bad word that refers to black people that starts with an 'N'. Lola, who is half black from her father, got ticked at Hidushikai and yelled at him. They got in a word fight and they decided not to see each other again for a little while. Now, Lola doesn't get her driver's license until this November and doesn't want to go over to Hidushikai's house anymore, and doesn't have any other friends in the neighborhood. That is, accept for me.
Now, she wants to be over at my house all of the time. She doesn't want to train because it's too hot. Play video games because she's not good at them. Swim because my pool is cold. Or just about anything else. I would be on the computer posting while she was here but that's rude to have a guest hanging like that. So I end up watching these cruddy soap operas all the time with her while she complains about the characters and constantly asks me how I feel about it. Take note; I like Lola, she's cool. But I'm not a real centimental person when it comes to this stuff.
To put the cherry on the sunde, she was looking at joining Lyoko Freak and I'm not sure if I should let her use my computer. Also, Hidushikai is getting ticked at me because she's over at my house. I know that they still love each other. But Lola simply doesn't want to see him for a little while because of what he said about her father. I also know that Hidushikai didn't really mean it. He was just angry because he wanted to be with Lola more and he says a lot of stupid things when he gets in that state of mind. Now I'm getting caught in the middle of it.

[Jeremified offline]

Ouch, that's terrible! I don't really know how these things get so complicated when they start so little as love being separated by parents. And why do you have to be in there?

Well, you are, so you may as well deal with it. The first step is being a friend to both Lola and Hidushikai. This way they can both be comforted. If you're only friendly to Lola, this may make Hidushikai feel like you're taking her, despite the circumstances. If you're only a friend to Hidushikai, then this will only upset Lola more, thus upsetting Hidushikai- and then you're not helping anybody. Another very crucial thing to do is, whether you're Christian or not, pray! Prayer is one of the strongest ways to help somebody because it really works. If you don't believe me, then get this: my mom had twins 6 years ago- 23-WEEK-OLD TWINS. EXTREMELY PREMATURE. Later on, the doctor called, saying that their health was critical and that they had no hope at all for living. Here's the strange part: the next morning, the doctor called saying that one of them had actually lived through it! Yes, the other died. But now my other sister is just waking up- like anybody would! Prayer was the key to this. There are countless events where prayer has saved lives, pulled others out of bad situatios, and helped heal broken hearts. So pray- regardless of your religion.

[. offline]

ahh.... ya know, I'd be a little cautious about letting my daughter date a guy like that. I mean he flipped out at a guy who was apologizing, past history or not... ah I don't know. I'd would of handle it differently.

Errrrmmmm my advice? start following wrestling, it should keep her occupied if shes a soap opera fan.

[The BB of C offline]

Well, I had a talk with Lola earlier Saturday. I'm pretty sure I helped straighten things out because soon after she went to Hidushikai's house and made up with him. Things have clicked back into normalcy.