Bullying stoped my life don't let it stop yours

[Lyoko SA80 offline]

After a long period in my young life .I have been bullyed in school ,clubs, and on the street.But I have learn't and process though times to help and cheer up people.The bad thing about this is I stop going outside.Too shy to join clubs and love antisocial ativicies. I not a really social guy .but after being here for a long perod of time. The question is can evryone help me here at lyokofreak bring me back from the dark dark conuer of the site

[The BB of C offline]

I can't help you, here, but I was in an identical situation and I got myself out. I can tell you that you can help yourself. But what you've got ahead of you is a long and complicated track. Do you think you can handle it? By the way, you're already done with the first step.

[Lyoko SA80 offline]

I can't help you, here, but I was in an identical situation and I got myself out. I can tell you that you can help yourself. But what you've got ahead of you is a long and complicated track. Do you think you can handle it? By the way, you're already done with the first step.

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? How have I done the first step .what are the orthers then.

[The BB of C offline]

You know that you have a problem with bullies and you know what it's doing to your social life. That is the first step. What you have to do now that is very complicated and is probably the longest step.
Make a list in your head of what you change about yourself to make yourself more acceptable to the bullies without chaning who you are as yourself. I really hope you understand that because if you don't it's going to take me a week to try to find the words to explain it and just as long to write it down. Then, just work to better yourself and fix your own social flaws and people will like being around you more.
As for the bullies, just beat them up. All it takes to get someone like that off your case is a bloody nose and a bruise on the cheek. Taking down people like that is also a good reputation and personal morale booster.

[Ghost Guest offline]

Drum lyoko, I can relate to your situation, now the only kind of contact I have with other people is on the Internet... I feel terribly uncomfortable in any other kind of social situations (parties for example). But I think that if you want to be a more social person you need to take it one day at a time... like meet with a few friends now and then, even if it's just to talk. That helps you to build some confidence around social events... then you can go outside and do some other stuff and even meet new people if you want. Well, that's my advice, I hope this helps in some way.

[Lyoko SA80 offline]

Yeah but the biggest problem is most of the peiople in my area are people who deal with drugs and there are neds Like BJB.I can't I feel uncomfortable when outside .

[The BB of C offline]

If the majority of people in your neighborhood are druggies than it shouldn't be too hard to find someone who isn't. They probably stand out in the crowd. Just hang out with them. Maybe you'll befriend someone who can back you up in a situation where you're getting bullied.

[Paige offline]

Take charge kid. Show people that you aren't gonna take any crap. Next time someone bothers you, punch them square in the face, I did that in 6th grade, I let everyone bully me around, but finally I got sick of it, and I punched this girl who always bothered me. After that, people knew I wasn't gonna take any crap.

Look, dude. Anyone can do that. Just tell them to leave you alone once or twice. Themn just bop em' one. Maybe you're not for violence, or you are too cowardly, but that is pretty much one of the only ways to get respect. I mean, be nice to everyone, don't go around punching them. But the only reason people are bullying you is because you let them. And if you don't let them, then they would stop. Trust me.

Once you get into like high school or even 8th grade though, it's considered immature to pick on people, and people just don't do it. Well, in my experience anyways.

[Lyoko SA80 offline]

I'm 16 and in college .One thing that is the problem is that I know I can do it .but I don't know if I would stop or think about the orthers and the Neds I hope you know who there are

[Paige offline]

Don't associate with the drug dealers or whatever, and if you are in college, then it is PAST time to take control of who you are and your confidence. Really. You won't get anywhere with girls or dates at all with the confidence level you have now. And you won't get any friends that way either.

[Lyoko SA80 offline]

So basiclly take contorl of who I am and talk to people

[Paige offline]

So basiclly take contorl of who I am and talk to people

Yep, that about sums it up.

[The BB of C offline]

In an ideal situation, yes. But sometimes you've just got to put the Breaker-Knuckle Fist in their face and shut them up for good.

[Paige offline]

In an ideal situation, yes. But sometimes you've just got to put the Breaker-Knuckle Fist in their face and shut them up for good.

I agree, as you can see from my previous posts.

[oddsgrlfriend offline]

I know what you're going through. This passing school year I was bullied a lot also (I've been bullied since preschool and now I'm going into 10th grade). It got so bad that I was being sexually harassed and I basically distanced myself from everyone. It was so bad I'd actually cry in class. Her are my tips:
1. Tell a parent/teacher
2. Find a song that helps you deal (mine were 'Welcome to my life' and 'Sticks and Stones')
3. Don't take crap from anyone


It'll help trust me. I'm a lot more social (and loud) now and the kid won't mess with me after I threated to press charges and almost got him expelled. Sometimes though you can't help get into those dark, lonely, depressed, antisocial moods but just try to think possitive. That's all I can say.

[Stonecreek]

Since 1st grade, I was bullied every day at school. Kids were jealous of how I did in school, and thus no one befriended me. I finally got sick of this in 7th grade and attacked back at one of the bullies. Sure, it got me suspended from school for 10 days, but it also got me something else - respect. The bullying stopped, for the most part, except for this one kid freshman year of H.S. (but he was strung out, so he don't really count). The point is, if subtle actions aren't working, take drastic actions. I'm not suggesting doing something of the nature I did, but get everyone's attention and say I'm not gonna take this anymore.

[Aceilikeeggs offline]

You know that you have a problem with bullies and you know what it's doing to your social life. That is the first step. What you have to do now that is very complicated and is probably the longest step.
Make a list in your head of what you change about yourself to make yourself more acceptable to the bullies without chaning who you are as yourself. I really hope you understand that because if you don't it's going to take me a week to try to find the words to explain it and just as long to write it down. Then, just work to better yourself and fix your own social flaws and people will like being around you more.
As for the bullies, just beat them up. All it takes to get someone like that off your case is a bloody nose and a bruise on the cheek. Taking down people like that is also a good reputation and personal morale booster.

Let me help you out BB of C.

This was posted on my Rant,by BB of C himself,and it should help. It certainly helped me!!

THIS IS ONLY PROPERTY OF BB of C....C,C,C,C,C.


Beat him to the ground.
Do this, this attack is so easy and effective, some of the weakest people around could do it. All you need is speed. Use the basic offensive stance. With your left arm extended in front of you, and your right arm tucked back by your ribs. Make sure your right fist is clenched an your left hand is opened. But the side of your hand should be facing him. Bring your left hand back slightly, and fling it out as fast as you can. Chop him lightly on the brige of the nose. This is to distract him from the next attack. As quickly as you can, bring back the chop, and line up your shoulders facing him on your right side. Thrust out your right fist and open it so the palm makes contact. Don't hit him with your fingers, you might break them. For this attack, aim for his diaphragm (Do you know what that is?). If you did it right, one of two things will happen. He will either fly back two or three feet, or he will lose his breath. If he gets launched back, leap towards him, and pound your fist into his stomach. If he looses his breath: Put both of your hands to the right side of your body. Join them at the vain in your wrist with your hands open. Launch out both of your arms as hard as you can, aim for his stomach. Make sure your right hand is on top and your fingers point up, and your left hand is on bottom with fingers pointing left.
Invert the directions (switch right with left and left with right) if you're left handed.

[The BB of C offline]

Ah, yes, the Disabler #2 ---> Hadouken Fireball punch. A very popular combo among the Cannon Style OMEGAS and really effective too. I used it against a guy back in February who was talking trash about my mother while I was trying to be goalie during hockey.

[Lyoko SA80 offline]

Well?. That should shut him up How about if the guy runs at your .Thinking about it I would grap his frsit and hit him with a chop on his back of his neck then throw him over my back and the finsihting touch kick him in the balls .Do you think that would do the job or not.

[The BB of C offline]

How about we don't chop anyone in the back of the neck? That could kill them. We're not looking to go that far. Also, how about we don't strike anyone's testicals? That can leave him sterile. More permanet damage punishable by law. Just hit him in the forehead as hard as you can and get it over with.

[TB3]

How about we don't chop anyone in the back of the neck? That could kill them. We're not looking to go that far. Also, how about we don't strike anyone's testicals? That can leave him sterile. More permanet damage punishable by law. Just hit him in the forehead as hard as you can and get it over with.

Hmm, BBofC suggesting non-violent solutions - strange indeed

Lyoko Soldier, I really empathise with you - it's awful to be treated like this - I know as well as you do having suffered as you do for years - the best thing is that those events and persons are now behind me - and eventually they'll be behind you too.

Nil Carboneum - don't let the b***ards grind you down

[Lyoko SA80 offline]

Ok TB3 Good to hear from you again.I was thing of that for a long time I your all right .I should really thing about at these.Hitting him in the head with my forehead should do the job thanks The BB of C

[oddsgrlfriend offline]

Violence is never the answer.

[Lyoko SA80 offline]

Ok I getting mixed up .any idea what to do then oddsgilfriend.

[The BB of C offline]

Violence is never the answer.

That's not really true, Oddsgrlfriend. Especially in scholastic social situations, a good fight can fix a lot. I've been in a lot of very serious fights and once I got done with my opponent, we never had problems again. Though nobody likes violance and everyone wants this to be a peaceful world, every now and then something arises where you have to "get dirty with the people spreading the dirt."