I need some consoling

[Rudger offline]

my only real feind in this entire state just decided to leave me in an Im session. he lives less than a mile away and he couldnt tell me to my face. his reasons are that I am immature and stupid. and that he has become a man and I have not. He says I am irresponsible. and that he never liked me anyways. I went over there to see if it was just a joke and he wouldnt even come to the door. Do any of you beleive me to be immature or stupid? he is 18 since febuary and we have been drifting since then. I am only seven months younger than him and I hold a job and take care of myself. He has never worked a real job ever and he calls me irresponsible. I have to go to work just to be able to afford to go to work and he is telling me that he has it rough. we have been freinds since second grade and I have no one else around here. to just do this to me is unbearable and I am still crying about it. I never cry. the last time I really cried was when I lost my grandma some years back. this is too much. I dont know what to do. please help me.

[Rail Runner offline]

well...you did the best you could do man...and that is all that matters...you are more responsible than he is...and I think he is just jealous...you need to realize that friends will come and go in life...and if he is treating you like that, then maybe he really wasnt looking out for you as friends should do...my friend john is quite a bit older than I am..but he never has once talked to me that way, and I have never once talked to him that way, because we are true friends...we are here for you dude...this is just one of those things in life that happens...dont tear yourself up too badly...you are cool by me..and im sure everyone here will agree...we are better friends than he is to you...I have lost friends since kindergarten because things change..that is life...life is everchanging. The more you accept this fact, the easier it will be to accept the things to come.

You are doing well..working and everything...dont let others put you down because of what you do..be happy with who you are and what you are accomplishing, what everyone else thinks doesnt matter..well your parents opinions matter..but as far as for friends, if they are true friends, then they will accept you for who you are...and respect you for it as well..

[Rudger offline]

thank you Virtualized STI. your right. while everyone else was out making their way in life he was inside playing video games. I think it made him into something I cant say here but you get the picture. How could I have thought someone like that was my best freind. It doesnt matter. I realize now that you told me that it isnt me, its him. I thank you from the bottom of my heart and I also thank everyone on lyokofreak for being such nice people. thank you all a thousand times over. It will still take me a while to recover but until then I will put him out of my mind.

EDIT: anybody reading this should hate him forever. I edited the swering. He just now over an hour later. IM'd me with the only "immature" thing he could think of about me.

"D*********r" (7:57:14 PM):What the f*** is with you and that d*mn show Code lioko or sumthin thats a show for retarded kids and thats why I think you are a little slow in te head rudger. you f***ing wuss dont ever come by my house again if you know whats gud for ya.

Who says gud? and how is it for "retarded" kids. what does a mental handicap have to do with what and why you watch something? he wont answer me and has blocked me in AIM. I edited his name because even now I still dont want some of our more ambitious members to go spamming him. this kid is like 150 pounds and weaker than day old doughnuts. I am around 375 now and could pound his face in wth my pinky. why does he think its a "gud" idea to threaten me?

[Rail Runner offline]

no problem dude...I have been there before, and I know how you feel..but look, he is not worth your time, or tears, or pain, or anything...block him from AIM, do whatever you have to do to forget him, and move on...you will gain plenty of new friends, you have us as well..and we will do the best we can to help you through all of this. That is what friends are for.

[oddsgrlfriend offline]

I feel so bad for you! Keep in mind that you've got friends here (although I know it's not the same )

[Tom Bone offline]

Keep in mind that you've got friends here

Ditto. He's the immature one. Just know that you've got tons of friends here, including LF's #1 TNBC Freak (AKA Me)

[Roadkill offline]

I'm sorry. I know what it feels like to lose supposed-friends. No matter how hard they stab you in the back, it's still hard to just move on like nothing happened and forget them. But you'll always have friends here, and you'll make friends in real life too.

[Chosen_one offline]

"D*********r" (7:57:14 PM):What the f*** is with you and that d*mn show Code lioko or sumthin thats a show for retarded kids and thats why I think you are a little slow in te head rudger. you f***ing wuss dont ever come by my house again if you know whats gud for ya.

Right... and he has the nerve to say that while he lives with his mother and plays video games all day. Does he live with his mother? If he plays video games all day, how does he support himself?

Anyway, if it makes you feel any better, CODE LYOKO is one of the most mature shows I've ever seen. When I first saw its opening theme, I had this weird sensation as if I was being taken to a new level of maturity and sophistication beyond that of traditional American animation.

As for retardedness... the only stupid thing I've ever seen from you is that fat kid you used to have in your signature. Ever since you joined LyokoFreak, you've been a mature member who always thought twice about what he says. Not a single word you've said has ever brought an immature message to my brain, and it actually scares me to see such a mature person like yourself say that you need counseling.

I know what it feels like to lose a soi-disant friend over instant messaging. It's tough, but eventually, you'll get over it, and so will your friend. I knew this guy from YIM named goody2shoes4914; he started ignoring me for asking the difference between GoDaddy and Yahoo! Domains because he thought I was criticizing his website. Eventually, I got pissed off and started spamming him for fun, and he actually replied "Hey" as if he was apologizing and wanted to make up for that little argument. Just saying.

[LadyLucy offline]

I just lost a friend to stupidity as well. Don't worry...it's their loss. If someone is dumb enough to through a friendship, especally when they're the only person you have to lean on (and they know it), they are just cruel to begin with. All we can do is make sure we don't turn into that person someday and backstab someone else.

[Tekirai offline]

Whut. Code Lyoko is 'retarded'? He needs to go see some technical episode like Just In Time or something.

Y'know, this may be kind of a weird thing to say, but a part of me thinks he isn't telling the truth... Katt's a friend of mine over IM, we've been friends for a few years. Every now and then one of us would talk about how badly we wanted to commit suicide, AKA a rant about things that ruin our lives, with the other knowing she wasn't really serious and just listened and tried to make them feel better. Personally, I think he's pulling your leg. But I'm probably wrong.

I personally don't give a toss about how people act, people act how they want, which is why I won't answer your question about if I think you're immature or not. Heck, I'm both. When I was 9, I acted more sophisticated than I am now. xP

[Rudger offline]

Right... and he has the nerve to say that while he lives with his mother and plays video games all day. Does he live with his mother? If he plays video games all day, how does he support himself?

good question. He doesnt support himself. his parents hand him everything. he takes and takes and takes and never returns. he hasnt even applied for a job yet and he is 18. most of us here had jobs at 16 because our parents could barely afford to support themselves. his plan in life is to get a job as a crew cheif for Bigfoot or Digger. He plans to acoplish this by talking to a guy that he plays an online racing game with. when his parents kick him out I want to see him struggle. it will be funny.

Personally, I think he's pulling your leg. But I'm probably wrong.

I wish it were so but I stopped there today and his father pulled a gun on me!!!! he told me to leave dave alone and that I have hurt him enough. WHA? what did I do to him? I havent seen him in a week. he is probably giving his parents a sob story that I beat him up or something. This kid is a #1 pure grade A. A**hole. whats better is that he put M80s in my paper box and blew it to he**.
Its like he wants me to pound him into the dirt. I should. I am still a minor and he would get arrested for hitting a minor if we fought. I am just going to forget I ever knew him to begin with. If he does anything to me or my family I will not restrain myself from a near lethal beating. I have had it. my sadness has transformed to rage and I think his face is the perfect outlet.

I am over it and he is just one more enemy. I have you guys(and girls) so I'm never lonely thanks a bunch guys(and girls). and I am sorry I got all emotional like that. It was wasted tears.

[Rail Runner offline]

Well..dont do anything you will regret buddy....thats all...you are the better person here...forget what has occurred..and continue doing what you are doing...jobwise, familywise..you are doing just fine...keep it up.

[Chosen_one offline]

Wow... getting a gun threat for visiting some guy who lives with his mom...