so explain the logic?

[. offline]

So having a discusion witha lady friend of mine the other ngiht.

A**holes get the girls now, I'm going to be the kind their going to want to marry when they smarten up

Explain the logic of why I should stay a nice guy or rather how I am expected to when everything is just driving me towards bitterness?

[HYDEfangirl offline]

Stay a nice guy because all women like to see the sensitive sides of the guy they married or dating. My boyfriend never showes me his sensitive side. He only shows it to me when he is flerting with me.

[LadyLucy offline]

... hehehhe.... read.

http://www.gurl.com/showoff/comix/pages/0,,703474-1,00.htmlhttp://www.gurl.com/showoff/comix/pages/1,,704149-1,00.html

they may help, they may not.

[. offline]

... hehehhe.... read.

http://www.gurl.com/showoff/comix/pages/0,,703474-1,00.htmlhttp://www.gurl.com/showoff/comix/pages/1,,704149-1,00.html

they may help, they may not.

Doesn't. Have asked girls out, I get turned down. I don't have a built up immunity to it.

The nice girls? Yeah, really not so nice. <_<

[Darkborn offline]

Everyone becomes mean sometimes down the line. Thats why I'm totally ticked off at a few girls for what they did to me.

[Paige offline]

Dude, you seem like SUCH a nice guy to me, and I would go out with you in an instant if I knew you, or if I ever met anyone like you, I would go out with them in an instant as well.

But, it seems to me that you may be a little TOO nice.... Some girls don't like boys to be so nice to them... I do, but apparently the girls you know don't.

Just be PATIENT, I know you are just waiting to make a girl feel like a princess, and believe me a girl wants that, but if you push it, you'll never get it.

Believe me, the best things happen when you LEAST expect them.

[. offline]

Well that put me in a good mood. Thank you Paige. ^.^

[KayLenny#7 offline]

I'd never put up with a jerk personally. I just recently ended a pathetic excuse of a friendship because a guy was a jerk. He thought he could ask me out, insult me when I confronted his previous attemts to fool me into thinking certain people like me, and then still be friends. Eff him. Jerks don't win in my book. Stay nice or you'll end up with a shallow female dog.

[Paige offline]

Well that put me in a good mood. Thank you Paige. ^.^

You are definitely welcome! If you feel like you can't take stupid girls falling for the jerks, just remember that, because really, I bet there is a girl out there looking for someone JUST like you. I know I am looking for a nice boy who is sweet and wonderful like you seem to be.

But, I have to say, I've fallen for my fair share of idiot guys. But, I recover from them quickly and realize how lame I was for even trying to be their girlfriend. And it teaches me what I want, and DO NOT want in a relationship.

[. offline]

Why can't there be more girls like this where I live? ahhh *grumble*

[Paige offline]

Why can't there be more girls like this where I live? ahhh *grumble*

Ha, I was going to say the same as well! I wish there were more guys around here who seem to be as wonderful as you! But alas, there aren't. I have to learn to deal with it.

And I'm sure there are PLENTY of girls around where you live who are... "like this" as you say. You just don't know them, or see them! Have faith, you'll find someone.

[. offline]

from a conversation I just had with a lady-friend of mine.

Bloody9 [6:31 P.M.]: i just feel bad
ThePepsiPiper [6:32 P.M.]: Why?
Bloody9 [6:32 P.M.]: cause you seem to just keep striking out
Bloody9 [6:32 P.M.]: and u always seem so sad
Bloody9 [6:32 P.M.]: and I dunno what to do 2 help

For some reason getting getting the understanding I've been trying to show people for a life time and to hear it from my kind sweet natured lesbian friend is a total buzzkill. Suppose maybe I just liked to believe in the delusion that it didnt seem at all like God himself was against me. Meh.

[HYDEfangirl offline]

God IS with you. I still say stay a nice guy

[. offline]

God IS with you. I still say stay a nice guy

Oh no doubt... Im not much of a religous person at all but the one thing I do believe in is that we are all his children and he's going to make everything work out in the end.

However sometimes I feel like I'm an ant and he's the big mean kid on top of hill with a magnifying glass. He could fix my problems in 5 minutes if he wanted to but instead he'd rather just burn my feelers off and watch my squirm.

Ah but what do I do? trudge threw day by day trying to get by until it's my time but it's so easy for a person to just become bitter... what I'm trying to get at is that this really sucks.

[Paige offline]

I agree with Sasuke. Just stay in there Pepsi!

Things will get better. I promise, they always get better, they have to.

[MY85 offline]

At the rate he's going, he's gonna end up like Andy Stitzer.

[Lyoko SA80 offline]

Be yourself .That all I can say .It's not really going to work out if you pretend to to be nice .Try and find a balance between nice and yourself .For me and a killing mode it's ok .I think of my girlfriend .

[. offline]

Okay will pimp this thought yo,

For weeks I thought this one girl was having deep troubles with this pyscho guy who was like obsessed with her and what not. I thought so highly of this girl and thought she was all sweet and such... And then I find out OOOHHHHHH every BF she had since they broke up she cheated on them with her ex... Thus explaining why the ex never left her alone. She was just stringing him along.

Golly Gee Gosh, thats just plain mean to me I don't care if her ex was a jerk or not. Thats mean to him and the person she was dating.

So to hell with it. I'm done. I'm done trying to analyze and make sense of women because they don't make sense and at the end of the day they are just as bad as "the typical male" if not worse. Last time I believe so eassily that a girl is an innocent sweet heart.

[Paige offline]

Awww don't think that!

You can't judge the entire female population by just how ONE girl acts! Sure, I'll be the first person to tell you that there are some b*tches out there, but that doesn't mean ever girl is. There are some amazing and sweet and incredible girls out there, yeah, we may never make any sense, but if you ask us to TRY to explain ourselves to you, we will try.

An amazing friend of mine is being a real ass to me right now by telling me that a girl I absolutely can't stand is prettier than me, and even though I can't undertsnad why he possibly thinks she is prettier than me [maybe because she can blow three guy in 2 days?] I'm just grinning and bearing it. I'm not gonna think, "oh no! every guy is such a jerk and thinks I'm so ugly!" Because it isn't true. So don't do that to us.

[. offline]

See now why can't I be sorrounded by girls with more of that tone of thinking? All the ones I'm around are either...

A. Had a bad experince and say that all men as jerks... Except me though, they say, oh but I'm jsut a friend <.<

or

B. Think all guys as jerks EXCEPT the guy their with is the salt of the mofo earth... and I would be dateable if they weren't taken which really doesn't help me in the long run because then YAY! I'm second place rebound material <.<

I'm sorry Paige... I'm just bitter.

[Paige offline]

I have two guys friends JUST like you. I have actually considered dating them too. But... well, another guy I liked asked me out, or I just didn't feel it. But sometimes while I'm with someone, I really feel something for them, or viceversa.

I try not to express my feelings for them, because I am already so close to them both that I don't want to like screw up things by going out, maybe finding out it wasn't gonna work out, and then make things awkward.

One of them has told me that it really hurt them to know that I would try things out with them, but I was already with someone, and I instantly thought of you, Pepsi when he told me that. I felt so bad, because I know you are like... wanting so much to be with someone. And, I really want to be with this guy because I KNOW he'd treat me amazingly, so thanks to you, I'm going to try things out with him because he deserves it.

As for you, don't think that every girl thinks you are only like... second best, or replacement guy, or a rebound, that's an awful way to be thought of. Take initiative, ask out a cute girl you see at a local coffee shop, or park, or something. They will SOOO be nice to you if they say no, and not be like, "AHHH get away!" So just be bold, take a chance. If you ask enough, there's bound to be at least two or three girls who are willing to be bold along with you.

[Lyoko SA80 offline]

Pimp .Please watch you mouth I don't like the sound of that.Back to topic True girl's are hard to understand but as paige said take a chance .To be horest I'm really understand girl's at all .Well, at this moment anyway .

[. offline]

I have two guys friends JUST like you. I have actually considered dating them too. But... well, another guy I liked asked me out, or I just didn't feel it. But sometimes while I'm with someone, I really feel something for them, or viceversa.

I try not to express my feelings for them, because I am already so close to them both that I don't want to like screw up things by going out, maybe finding out it wasn't gonna work out, and then make things awkward.

One of them has told me that it really hurt them to know that I would try things out with them, but I was already with someone, and I instantly thought of you, Pepsi when he told me that. I felt so bad, because I know you are like... wanting so much to be with someone. And, I really want to be with this guy because I KNOW he'd treat me amazingly, so thanks to you, I'm going to try things out with him because he deserves it.

As for you, don't think that every girl thinks you are only like... second best, or replacement guy, or a rebound, that's an awful way to be thought of. Take initiative, ask out a cute girl you see at a local coffee shop, or park, or something. They will SOOO be nice to you if they say no, and not be like, "AHHH get away!" So just be bold, take a chance. If you ask enough, there's bound to be at least two or three girls who are willing to be bold along with you.

Ah your a sweetie Paige. I hope things work out for you.

[Paige offline]

Awww thank you Pepsi!


I wish things would work out for you too!