I can't take it anymore!

[MewmiC offline]

When I was in the first grade I met this girl and we've been friends ever since. Now I'm a Junior in High School and we're still friends...but their's a problem.

Recently I feel that this 'friend' has been manipulating me and taking away my life. When I tranfered to a different school in the seventh grade I made a bunch of new friends, but when she joined me in High School I feel that she took all of that away. The only friend that I feel I have I made in middle school is this one guy and when he's not around and she's off talking with the girls, I can never get in on there conversation and get lonely.

Another thing was when this guy I thought was cute came to the school. I wanted to talk to him and get to know him, but she kept getting in the way and I was always in the background. Now this boy seems to have a girlfriend (thankfully not her) and I can't help but wonder if that could have been me if she never got in the way.

My best traits that people know me by are cheeful, funny and optimistic, but deep down I've been miserable because of her. She's manipulative and I feel she doesn't care for me. A few times we've got into fights, but then she'd call me on the phone to talk. When I asked her why she'd respond that 'it's because she's bored'.

I want to see less of her. We have all but one class together, we carpool at school, she lives only twenty minutes from my house and she constantly wants to talk on the phone. I can ignore the last one to an extent, but she calls everyday. What makes it worse is that she calls when I'm doing my homework. I've told her several times not to call me because I'm working on homework, but she doesn't listen and continually calls over and over again.

My parents can't stand it, my father doesn't need even need to look at a clock anymore because she calls at the exact same time every night, and I can't stand it. I've had it with this girl, but I'm to soft to tell her to her face that I don't want her to be my 'friend' andymore (if I can even call her that). Even if I did she'd probably think I was joking and proceed to bug me to no end!

I don't know what to do. I'm trying to wait until college so I can lose contact with her, but I feel I can't wait anymore. She's driving nuts!

[Lyoko SA80 offline]

tranfered. Ouch. Sounds like alot would of happen see must of got over you .But the fact she is calling you . Well you said that got a friend ask him for advice .Don't down yourself I know how it feels to be alone .(Do you free you are in a stand alone ).Try and speak to her face to face and tell her how you feel. If that does'n t work unhook the phone exact same time when she calls.It's time to tell her your playing hard ball .

If this doesn't work I be here as well as the ours. ok .

[Phoenix Wolf offline]

My sister had two friends like that, they didn't call but they tried to control who she was friends with and what she did. The teacher had her transferred to a different class because she believed that this friend was stalking my sister. The best advice I can give you is talk to her and tell her look I need some space. Or if it gets really bad talk to a councelor or one of your teachers to see if you can get it sorted out. I know you probably don't want to be a tattle tale but sometimes you have to go to those lengths to fix the problem. Or you could use escapism. You could pick something you love to do and use that to forget your problems. I know it won't make her disappear but it will help, I speak from experience. Another thing you could try is start a journal as well, and unload everything in there all the problems of the day. I have a journal but I write compositions in mine. If you are not a writer you could get a sketch book, you just need something to express yourself something to let off steam. It will help, I hope you get this sorted out if you need someone to talk to I am always willing to help.

[BillyBen140 offline]

When I was in the first grade I met this girl and we've been friends ever since. Now I'm a Junior in High School and we're still friends...but their's a problem.

Recently I feel that this 'friend' has been manipulating me and taking away my life. When I tranfered to a different school in the seventh grade I made a bunch of new friends, but when she joined me in High School I feel that she took all of that away. The only friend that I feel I have I made in middle school is this one guy and when he's not around and she's off talking with the girls, I can never get in on there conversation and get lonely.

Another thing was when this guy I thought was cute came to the school. I wanted to talk to him and get to know him, but she kept getting in the way and I was always in the background. Now this boy seems to have a girlfriend (thankfully not her) and I can't help but wonder if that could have been me if she never got in the way.

My best traits that people know me by are cheeful, funny and optimistic, but deep down I've been miserable because of her. She's manipulative and I feel she doesn't care for me. A few times we've got into fights, but then she'd call me on the phone to talk. When I asked her why she'd respond that 'it's because she's bored'.

I want to see less of her. We have all but one class together, we carpool at school, she lives only twenty minutes from my house and she constantly wants to talk on the phone. I can ignore the last one to an extent, but she calls everyday. What makes it worse is that she calls when I'm doing my homework. I've told her several times not to call me because I'm working on homework, but she doesn't listen and continually calls over and over again.

My parents can't stand it, my father doesn't need even need to look at a clock anymore because she calls at the exact same time every night, and I can't stand it. I've had it with this girl, but I'm to soft to tell her to her face that I don't want her to be my 'friend' andymore (if I can even call her that). Even if I did she'd probably think I was joking and proceed to bug me to no end!

I don't know what to do. I'm trying to wait until college so I can lose contact with her, but I feel I can't wait anymore. She's driving nuts!

Aw dude thats bad!

I would tell her To get a life and to get out of mine. And if she keeps doing it try acting smarter,and better.

[Shi_Min_Xi offline]

When I was in the first grade I met this girl and we've been friends ever since. Now I'm a Junior in High School and we're still friends...but their's a problem.

Recently I feel that this 'friend' has been manipulating me and taking away my life. When I tranfered to a different school in the seventh grade I made a bunch of new friends, but when she joined me in High School I feel that she took all of that away. The only friend that I feel I have I made in middle school is this one guy and when he's not around and she's off talking with the girls, I can never get in on there conversation and get lonely.

Another thing was when this guy I thought was cute came to the school. I wanted to talk to him and get to know him, but she kept getting in the way and I was always in the background. Now this boy seems to have a girlfriend (thankfully not her) and I can't help but wonder if that could have been me if she never got in the way.

My best traits that people know me by are cheeful, funny and optimistic, but deep down I've been miserable because of her. She's manipulative and I feel she doesn't care for me. A few times we've got into fights, but then she'd call me on the phone to talk. When I asked her why she'd respond that 'it's because she's bored'.

I want to see less of her. We have all but one class together, we carpool at school, she lives only twenty minutes from my house and she constantly wants to talk on the phone. I can ignore the last one to an extent, but she calls everyday. What makes it worse is that she calls when I'm doing my homework. I've told her several times not to call me because I'm working on homework, but she doesn't listen and continually calls over and over again.

My parents can't stand it, my father doesn't need even need to look at a clock anymore because she calls at the exact same time every night, and I can't stand it. I've had it with this girl, but I'm to soft to tell her to her face that I don't want her to be my 'friend' andymore (if I can even call her that). Even if I did she'd probably think I was joking and proceed to bug me to no end!

I don't know what to do. I'm trying to wait until college so I can lose contact with her, but I feel I can't wait anymore. She's driving nuts!

Aw dude thats bad!

I would tell her To get a life and to get out of mine. And if she keeps doing it try acting smarter,and better.

Sorry, I'm going to have to disagree on the acting smarter and better part (Not to be offense!)

If you do start acting that way, <b>JUST</b> to get away from her, you're going to start experiencing problems. It'll give her another reason to start bugging you, calling you when you're doing your hw, etc. That is not to say, that if you can act that way don't. If you really can act that way because you know you can and not just to get away from her then by all means do so. You might end up getting more friends that way and a better chance for you to escape from her. But if you can't do it naturally and can only do it just to get away from her, I reccommend you not to.

You can always tell nice and calmly that you would like more alone time to yourself. If that doesn't work, you can just pick up and hang up on her, if she asks what was up say that your father was getting annoyed. Or, you could just mute your phone at that time for about 10 mins, walk in next day and claim you never heard it. That way, if anyone calls and they need to reach your parents or something, they can still leave a message on the machine and you can always delete her messages the second you hear her voice. Do this for a while and hopefully she'll be able to take a hint. If that still doesn't work and just flat out tell her, "Look, I want to live my own life, explore things by myself and figure things out with me, myself and I. I don't want you hovering every part of my life. We can still be friends, but you have got to stop bothering me like this. You have other friends, you should hang out with them as well. I have a life I need to live and so do you. Let's both live our lives and still be friends."

If that doesn't work then I dunno....

Feel free to PM 'bout anything, like if that was just a big blob of text that made no sense or what not.