Kissed by a Stranger

[Just_Jaine offline]

I really hate complaining and weighing people down with my problems but I’m going to be the b*tch I am and “enlighten” you with a story…

I went to the movie last Thursday with the school I’m at. (I’m in Costa Rica learning Spanish. Anyhow, my “friend” who is more of a complete stranger, I’ve known him for about a week, tried to kiss me. Ok so what’s the big deal…I guy tries to kiss…not that bad. Ok I understand that if I had really done some thing wrong or flirtatious with him…but idk I think it’s a bit wrong in general for a almost stranger to kiss you. Especially when they are 5 or so years older that you. Am I right or completely insane...? Is it wrong to invite a friend to sit next to you and expect them not to kiss you when you’re at the movies? Ok so I admit it I felt used. I have felt the same way with my ex boyfriend. (And he’s the kind of guy who sticks his tough down your through and then a week after he brakes up with you goes out with another girl. And so on and so forth) and I’m not stupid I know that when something doesn’t feel right you should tell and adult. (Not to mention that I’m completely freaked out) So I did that. Fine she said she would talk to him. Good he’s not my problem. I’m just going to stay away from him. Is that too strange of a request? So I avoided him for 2 days and then today (the second day) he asks me if I’ve been avoiding him. As if that’s the strangest thing I could do. So I told him yes, I mean you did try to kiss me. I would avoid anyone who did that to me. Then he some how managed to say that I was rude for doing that. That he only tried to kiss me because he thought I wanted to. That he didn’t mean to make me feel uncomfortable… So is it my fault? Am I just exaggerating like normal? Or do I have every right to do what I did?

[Lyoko Wario offline]

Just be careful of his future actions, and tell someone you trust if it happens again.

Do what you think is right. You know him best, so try to follow your gut on this one...

[Ghost Guest offline]

Off-topic: Hey, you're in Costa Rica, hope you like it here.

On-topic: Methinks you didn't do anything wrong. That guy should've known better. My advice would be to let him know your position clearly and if he doesn't understand (or doesn't want to understand) then talk to an adult about the situation.

[MY85 offline]

Off-topic: Hey, you're in Costa Rica, hope you like it here.

Date this kid, lol.

Just jokes, but I'll read more into your thread later. Right now, I'm not in the bright mood.

[Odddellarobbia12 offline]

Its not your fault it happened. You should talk to him again about how you feel about his rudeness and tell him you would need more time to get to know him before you did anything more serious. Hopefully he would accept that fact and you could continue your friendship. If not then I think you should tell someone about it. If you don't want to talk to him about it its fine. ( I know I wouldn't really want to) Maybe you could take measures to prevent something like that happening again. Such as going to the cinema (or other places) with a group of friends rather than just the two of you. Sorry If that doesn't help but I'm not to great at this

[Stephen (x1)]

I don't really comment Rant much, so consider yourself lucky. J/k.

Situations like this are difficult. It's hard to determine exactly why he kissed you, other than what he said (that he thought you wanted to). Based on that, it could be something from his past where he was in a similar situation. Maybe a girl went to the movies with him before, and kissed him so that and other previous experiences led him to believe he 'should' kiss you.

If that confuses you, tell me and I'll clarify.

Also, this is totally up to the person, and I'm not saying you were wrong for doing it...but personally I would have talked to him before telling an adult. As it seemed like he wasn't being an a*s, just thought it was what you wanted, and that it was only a kiss, talking to him about it may have solved the problem. If he had forced himself on you with you clearly stating you didn't want him to, that's when I'd tell an adult first. But of course, all this is up to you and how offended you felt. You weren't wrong at all. :]

Really, though, you had every right to do what you did. And if he's still causing problems or you feel uncomfortable around him, just don't hang around him anymore.

[zex marquise offline]

Listen to Sutefii-chan. They are absolutely right. You did nothing wrong and nothing "rude". This guy must have had some really weird "past experiences" to think you would want him to kiss you just because you asked him to sit next to you at a movie. No one does that after only one week. His "I thought you wanted me to" line could just as easily have been him trying to save face and act innocent after you rejected him, especially considering he called you rude for avoiding him. Some people, when they do something bad, try to shift the blame to the other person with a guilt-trip in order to keep themselves from looking bad. I don't know this guy so I can't say concretely judge his character. Just remember, when guys act really nice to you, it's because either A) they are genuinely good people, or B) they are thinking with their pants and are only being nice to you as a means to an end (you know what I mean). In my 17 years of experience on this earth I've seen that the majority of guys fall sadly into category B, so be careful and make sure your male friends value you as a person and not just another potential notch on the belt. And definitely, some guy you have barely known for a week should not be trying to kiss you. That's category B. I have to wonder how long he has been giving you the eye before you formally met each other and started hanging out? I know guys like that.

P.S.
Good luck with the Spanish! And don't drink the water!

[Odd-Like-Me offline]

Well suprise kisses are the nicest but yeh he should of asked your permission. Just relax about the kiss but next time he leaps in tell him off.


xx

[DarkestSoul X21 offline]

Well getting kisses is good. I will feel weird about a stranger kissing me (unless she is a hotty) I think you did the right thing. Try to talk to him that you don't want to be kissed by him and not ready for a relationship with him. If he doesn't listen then just stay away from him.

[MY85 offline]

Well getting kisses is good. I will feel weird about a stranger kissing me (unless she is a hotty)

OMG. Whore seeker.

Okay Jaine, I read your side of the story. On one side, the guy's a fool for being an adult and making out with a underage girl. On the other hand, barring his age, men can't exactly predict girls at all (same goes with girs trying to figure out men) and also I can't draw a precise conclusion since the only information I'm able to read is your side of the story and that you only know him for a week and I have no idea what happened prior to the kiss. For his age, he might be a fool for making out with a minor. However, he might be a desperate virgin. IDK.

On a weird note, I think Jaine's 15 and ese mae is 20. Jaine mentions that the guy that kissed her is 5 years older than her. Just Think About It...

[zex marquise offline]

Whoa... I thought about it...that's messed up, MakeYourself85.

[Ghost Guest offline]

Well getting kisses is good. I will feel weird about a stranger kissing me (unless she is a hotty)

OMG. Whore seeker.

Okay Jaine, I read your side of the story. On one side, the guy's a fool for being an adult and making out with a underage girl. On the other hand, barring his age, men can't exactly predict girls at all (same goes with girs trying to figure out men) and also I can't draw a precise conclusion since the only information I'm able to read is your side of the story and that you only know him for a week and I have no idea what happened prior to the kiss. For his age, he might be a fool for making out with a minor. However, he might be a desperate virgin. IDK.

On a weird note, I think Jaine's 15 and ese mae is 20. Jaine mentions that the guy that kissed her is 5 years older than her. Just Think About It...

Rest assured, I'm not the guy she talked about.

[. offline]

oooooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh kay... well I'm just assuming that the guy doesn't speak good english and you don't speak good spanish so ya know it could of very well just be the fault of mis-comunication.

[Rail Runner offline]

You did what you felt was right in the situation, and that is all that matters.

[MY85 offline]

Rest assured, I'm not the guy she talked about.

Liar.

Piper brings another interesting point. Sometimes, there's just not enough details to make better conclusions.

[laserodd offline]

well i think she did the right thing from what makeyourself85 has had state from the age differences, she a had a right to void him who knows, somethign could have happen if she hadn't voided him.