Problems

[Saphire-089 offline]

My Brother (he's not really my brother, we were both adopted and had different parents, we're also 5 years apart.) is such a jerk to me and others. He's had like 20 girlfriends already, and I guess most of them dumped HIM. So I'm with a friend the other day, and he actually says that to her face. And yet, she STILL likes him. Why she actually asks him out I'll never know. And so now, they talk to each other all the time, and it's driving me insane. I'm even willing to bet money that they won't last longer than 3 months. And earlier today she called me, and later when my bro I'll call Jake finds out, he says to her "Why Did you call my sister?" as if he can't comprehend why she would want to call. And also, whenever they talk on the phone, he is always trying to make himself look as if he's the bigger person, and I'm some kind of jerk who doesn't deserve to live. I know that I sometimes hit and punch him, sometimes kicking, but he honestly deserves it. My friend thinks he's funny and has liked him for the last two years, he's 13, and she's 17, but I don't find him that funny at all. She is so blind to all his stupidness, immaturity, and disgustingness (not a word I know, but still.)

Also he treats me like crap, dragging me off the sofa by my feet when I'm reading, going into the bathroom while I'm showering, and taking longer than necessary, bothering me while I'm trying to sleep, and walking around in only a towel around his waist when he comes out of the shower, making it very easy for it to fall off, and show to the world his privates. Doesn't the way you treat your sister represent how you treat women in general? Same with mothers.

But the worst thing he's ever done to me is "Hugging Me", which he tries to get me to lie down so he can get on top, and it feels like he's grinding against me or something, which is very uncomfortable and humiliating.

And of course he does all this whenever my mom isn't home (Parents getting divorced soon.), so I haven't told about any of it, except for the hugging part. I want so much to get it all on tape, so my parents can see what a monster he really is, and send him away someplace.

[JesusFreak offline]

First of all, TELL YOUR PARENTS! You may be waiting for the perfect moment, but that moment may never come

[Saphire-089 offline]

First of all, TELL YOUR PARENTS! You may be waiting for the perfect moment, but that moment may never come

I already told my Mom about the hugging part, but the other stuff is just so miniscule, it's not worth mentioning. She knows that we constantly fight, but that's it. I try to get along with him, but sometimes I wake up in a bad mood, or he just constantly gets on my nerves.

[JesusFreak offline]

Hm. it sounds that your brother is trying to get your attention or something then.

[. offline]

Well first off your friend's a god d*mn idoit, so I'll give you this advice: Do bother with her anymore. She's made a poor choice (like must do) and any attempt to fix that probbly won't work out well. I'm speaking from experince.

The grinding thing is pretty f'ed up. I would try and keep my distance.

[Gauntlet offline]

The grinding thing is pretty f'ed up. I would try and keep my distance.

To further that, I would advise the same by leaving the house when your parents/mother do(es). Assuming I read that right, he'd be 13 though, so you can't exactly leave him alone at the house. Even if your parents would allow you to leave him alone, it wouldn't be very responsible.

The "hugging" thing really is...a bit frightening. Gives me shivers just thinking about it; knowing how most boys act, I'm sure the majority of people here understand exactly what he's doing. It seems like your house doesn't have too many locks (based on the shower incident); it might be a good time to ask your parents to install them for the both of you. If your mother is out of the house quite frequently, it may be best to just stay in your room the whole time and leave when you absolutely need to (food, drink, restroom, emergency, etc.).

It may not work out so well, or may take a while to find one, but you might want to look into getting a job that has similar shifts as your mother, or at least something to minimize time with your brother. I don't think anyone can say no to money, and it may be a good chance to meet some new people while avoiding your brother; two birds with one stone. Your mother could probably force him to arrange a stay at one of his friends' houses in the meantime, since he would be alone.

Not much else comes to mind at the moment, but I'll definitely keep this in mind. If you need someone to talk to, you can PM me if you need to.

[Saphire-089 offline]

The grinding thing is pretty f'ed up. I would try and keep my distance.

To further that, I would advise the same by leaving the house when your parents/mother do(es). Assuming I read that right, he'd be 13 though, so you can't exactly leave him alone at the house. Even if your parents would allow you to leave him alone, it wouldn't be very responsible.

My parents have always had problems trusting him.

It seems like your house doesn't have too many locks (based on the shower incident); it might be a good time to ask your parents to install them for the both of you.

There is a lock on the bathroom door, but what I hate most about it is that you can unlock it from the outside as a "safety" requirement or something. My door has been locked for years since he actually stole something from out of my room a few years back, but unfortuanetly, I can't lock it at night, so I have to deal with him first thing in the morning.

If your mother is out of the house quite frequently, it may be best to just stay in your room the whole time and leave when you absolutely need to (food, drink, restroom, emergency, etc.).

I've tried that, but he usually blasts his music so loud in the mornings now that it's summer, but it won't be for long. Tommorow is the first day for both of us.

It may not work out so well, or may take a while to find one, but you might want to look into getting a job that has similar shifts as your mother, or at least something to minimize time with your brother. I don't think anyone can say no to money, and it may be a good chance to meet some new people while avoiding your brother; two birds with one stone. Your mother could probably force him to arrange a stay at one of his friends' houses in the meantime, since he would be alone.

Tonight I'm actually going in to train as a cashier/bagger for the same store my mom works, so I'll have a job soon, and a book club to go to on monday afternoons when school starts up later.

Not much else comes to mind at the moment, but I'll definitely keep this in mind. If you need someone to talk to, you can PM me if you need to.

Thanks.