Crush

[Saphire-089 offline]

Ok, this is the problem:
I've been crushing on this guy in my math class (I'm the ONLYgirl in that class.) He's a year older than I am, and I know he already has a girlfriend, I saw him kissing a girl this morning. And even if he didn't have a girlfriend, I'd still be way too nervous to ask him out. We're not really friends, but I wouldn't call us enemies. It'd be better off for anyone involved in this, for me to just forget him, but I don't know how to do that. Any Suggestions?

[Jeremified offline]

Wellllllllll...
Nope, sorry. I got nothing. Wish I could help. Really.

[. offline]

Ok, this is the problem:
I've been crushing on this guy in my math class (I'm the ONLYgirl in that class.) He's a year older than I am, and I know he already has a girlfriend, I saw him kissing a girl this morning. And even if he didn't have a girlfriend, I'd still be way too nervous to ask him out. We're not really friends, but I wouldn't call us enemies. It'd be better off for anyone involved in this, for me to just forget him, but I don't know how to do that. Any Suggestions?

All right I'm gonna be devil's advocate here. If you don't mind doing something really morally wrong, ya could try and see if you steal him away.

but if ya wanna take the good route, yeah forget about him.

[Little Vili offline]

Ok, this is the problem:
I've been crushing on this guy in my math class (I'm the ONLYgirl in that class.) He's a year older than I am, and I know he already has a girlfriend, I saw him kissing a girl this morning. And even if he didn't have a girlfriend, I'd still be way too nervous to ask him out. We're not really friends, but I wouldn't call us enemies. It'd be better off for anyone involved in this, for me to just forget him, but I don't know how to do that. Any Suggestions?

I know this is going to sound extremely annoying...but just wait it out for a little while. Take some time to observe some other guys as well. A lot of guys are real jerks (God knows, my school is full of them), so its no use just going after one, and then getting disappointed in the end. The girl he's with now, isnt exactly the girl he's going to be with forever. They may (or may not) break up (dont really count on this, because that will lead to being impatient). My advise overall...Time tells all the answers, we just sometimes have to wait a little longer than other times to hear them.

[emoBillâ„¢ offline]

Well, if he was kissing someone, then he most likely has a girlfriend. Wait and see if they break up, then ask him nicely what happened and then start to get to know each other better.

I'm clueless =P

[Saphire-089 offline]

I know this is going to sound extremely annoying...but just wait it out for a little while. Take some time to observe some other guys as well. A lot of guys are real jerks (God knows, my school is full of them), so its no use just going after one, and then getting disappointed in the end. The girl he's with now, isnt exactly the girl he's going to be with forever. They may (or may not) break up (dont really count on this, because that will lead to being impatient). My advise overall...Time tells all the answers, we just sometimes have to wait a little longer than other times to hear them.

Well, he's not a jerk at all. Unlike most of the guys at my school.

[Little Vili offline]

Well, thats good to know. Keep your eyes on him. Just remember not to get your hopes to up or down. Something is bound to happen.

[Overcaffeinated Sloth offline]

This sounds so much like me. But with mine, it's like I'm the only girl he's hostile to. And he pokes fun at me. And for that, I hate him.
But he is in all of my classes, and he did ask for my notes in class... Even though I have bad handwriting... I gotta give him a medal for reading that.

[enemyxwithin offline]

Ok, this is the problem:
I've been crushing on this guy in my math class (I'm the ONLYgirl in that class.) He's a year older than I am, and I know he already has a girlfriend, I saw him kissing a girl this morning. And even if he didn't have a girlfriend, I'd still be way too nervous to ask him out. We're not really friends, but I wouldn't call us enemies. It'd be better off for anyone involved in this, for me to just forget him, but I don't know how to do that. Any Suggestions?

Well, he has a girlfriend, so when they break up, go for it!!!! (I know, not the best info in the world. But hey, it could happen!!)

[Shanester offline]

Two steps to this, and this is only the opinion of someone desperately in need of sleep so take it with a grain of salt:

First, find reasons to get to know him, presuming that you don't already. Try to get into his circle of friends long enough to know whether this guy is worth your time.

If he seems like someone you'd still want to be more than friends with then proceed to step two; ask yourself how you'd think he'd begin feeling the same way you do if something about you changed. For instance if he found out that you're a better math student maybe he'd want to study with you, or if the two of you were into the same shows or books (so on and so on) he'd find reasons to hang out with you. I wouldn't suggest changing drastically for him and please don't do anything that would cause your present friends to think you went crazy or something, however sometimes a simple act of smiling more and being positive can make you more attractive to others. Disclaimer: I don't know if your the Goth queen at school or the perkiest person around, so use your best judgement with these examples.

Who knows, you may have someone else, possibly even better, come up to you revealing their crush towards you. Hope this helps a bit.

[Darkness Incarnate offline]

I'd just forget about him, there is most likly a guy that is head over heels for you but you are spending so much time thinking about this guy that you can't see him. Just something to think about.

[Saphire-089 offline]

I'm just so stupid!

Yesterday, I was walking down this really secluded hallway, right? No one's usually there. I hear his voice. I know I should get going, but I freeze! I should have left right then, but instead, I'm sure he saw me as I ran up the stairs!

[Ulrich Stern. offline]

I'm just so stupid!

Yesterday, I was walking down this really secluded hallway, right? No one's usually there. I hear his voice. I know I should get going, but I freeze! I should have left right then, but instead, I'm sure he saw me as I ran up the stairs!

I don't quite see your point with this. Was he trying to strike up a conversation with you? Was he calling to you? If not then it's no big deal that you didn't take the time to say anything. For all he knows you had no time to talk and had to rush off to your next class. There's nothing wrong with that.

[Saphire-089 offline]

I'm just so stupid!

Yesterday, I was walking down this really secluded hallway, right? No one's usually there. I hear his voice. I know I should get going, but I freeze! I should have left right then, but instead, I'm sure he saw me as I ran up the stairs!

I don't quite see your point with this. Was he trying to strike up a conversation with you? Was he calling to you? If not then it's no big deal that you didn't take the time to say anything. For all he knows you had no time to talk and had to rush off to your next class. There's nothing wrong with that.

I think He was talking to someone. Because I heard his voice first. I get the weirdest crushes. Not to say he's weird, but, when I'm crushing, I alway act all flustered when I'm near that particuler person. I didn'y want to hang around, having him think I was spying on him or something. After I ran out, I did start yelling at myself.


I am trying to just avoid him. I saw him with His GF at homeroom walking out of a building, so I evaded them both, forcing me (for the second time) to change my route to Homeroom.

[Ulrich Stern. offline]

I am trying to just avoid him. I saw him with His GF at homeroom walking out of a building, so I evaded them both, forcing me (for the second time) to change my route to Homeroom.

Ah, don't avoid him. You keep avoiding him and he'll start to notice and wonder why. There's no real reason to avoid him either. It's a free country, your allowed to be in the same room or walk down the same hall as him and not have to talk. That is unless you would normally talk to him in the hall. Then what you need to do is basically have "small talk" with him. Talk about little things like local news, the weather and other common intrests. Whatever you do, just don't do something that could be considered out of the ordinary for yourself. That's when people around you start to notice that something's up.

[CodeOdd offline]

Why not start making good friends of each other (if it can be done) then when his Girlfriend is gone you'll be there to comfort him.
Sorry but thats all i can think of, i hope it helps. Unless you'd rather steal him, which is something i wouldnt suggest you should do.

[enemyxwithin offline]

I am trying to just avoid him. I saw him with His GF at homeroom walking out of a building, so I evaded them both, forcing me (for the second time) to change my route to Homeroom.

Ah, don't avoid him. You keep avoiding him and he'll start to notice and wonder why. There's no real reason to avoid him either. It's a free country, your allowed to be in the same room or walk down the same hall as him and not have to talk. That is unless you would normally talk to him in the hall. Then what you need to do is basically have "small talk" with him. Talk about little things like local news, the weather and other common intrests. Whatever you do, just don't do something that could be considered out of the ordinary for yourself. That's when people around you start to notice that something's up.

Agreed. All of that is true anyway, because... well, you don't really need an explanation!!! Just don't avoid him because it will just make it harder for you to talk to him when you have the chance.

Try to casually strike up a conversation(like bump into him in the hallway or something) and then your good!!

[Chosen_one offline]

Just try to talk to him and be his friend. Even after he breaks up with his girlfriend, it's EXTREMELY annoying when a girl you've never met walks up to you and asks you out (if you're a guy).
3 out the 6 people in my life that I hate are hated because they just walked up to me as a stranger and asked me out. In fact, my organization used to be called [CH], which stands for [insert name of person I hate that begins with C] Haters because I hated that girl so much.
The point is: know the guy before you ask him out.