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Postby Chosen_one » Sun Mar 26, 2006 8:43 am

Okay, I know that A Fine Mess is the title of a Code Lyoko episode, but naturally this has nothing to do with it.

My parents expect so much out of me... They're like Ulrich's parents who think I'm worthless unless I'm in the top 2% for everything. Like once I got a 27 on my ACT, which is better than 90% of high school kids taking the test for college or practice. The first thing my dad did was criticize me because my percentile for Pre-Algebra was 2% lower than my percentile for trigonometry! And then there's my report card. Every time I get B's my parents yell at me. I quote from my mother:
My mother wrote:Don't think B is a good grade. B is a bad grade!

Last year, I was grounded for 189 days (27 weeks or 6.3 months, which is 51.78% of a year) because I didn't get straight A's. They did everything they could... they tried grounding me, scaring me, threatening me, separating me from my friends, isolating me from the internet even though I didn't use it that much... basically they tried making my life miserable.
And then they ask for explanations. I can't give one simply because I don't know one. But even if I did, it wouldn't matter. My parents just assume a reason and say it's true. According to them, anything that contradicts what they assume is an excuse. What's the point of explaning the cause of my "bad" grades if they won't believe me anyway?

The sad thing is that all of this is my fault. Everything they know about educating kids... well they learned it from the parents they know. And every example they have of other kids' grades are from the kids of the parents they know. And this is my fault because I used to hang out with the smartest kids in my school. One of my former friends won the science fair, one of them won a literature drawing award, one of them has awesome reflexes and is able to remember all of his affairs, and one of them got 7th place in the national spelling bee. And now, all of them get straight A's. (And they're all Sino-American, except two of them are also Canadian.) When my parents say "How come everyone else got an A, but not you?", the "everyone else" just happen to have the best grades in the entire school. But do my parents know about American kids? No. To them, everyone else in the school are just like my Chinese friends. I have American friends, too. And they get good grades for American standards. But my parents claim that they don't know their parents. They don't know any American parents, or American kids. They don't know anything about the grades of American kids. And I've been in this mess, in their reign of misery for over a year.

My parents criticize me so much... every day my mother says I'm stupid and that she doesn't understand why any academic sports team would want me, and my dad says that I suck too much...
My mother also said:
My mother wrote:Anyone who gets a B and still thinks well of himself should be reeducated.


And a person reading this would think that what I just wrote was a lot. But I'm not done. (Sorry if I'm boring you; if you don't finish the post I won't get mad...) My school is in debt by 2.5 million dollars so next year there'll be no yearbook, no trip to the state capital, and no sports. Nothing but classes. Man, my life is in such a mess...
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Postby oddsgrlfriend » Sun Mar 26, 2006 1:38 pm

Wow. I have no idea what to tell youi and for that I'm very sorry. I'm from the US and we have a bunch of different grade scales (It depends on the class and the school and the state and a bunch of other stuff). Just by reading your post I can tell you that you are not stupid and/or worthless. You seem extremely bright and intellegent. No one is worthless no matter how bad there grades are. Just remember that.
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Postby . » Sun Mar 26, 2006 1:59 pm

Thus why I'm thankful for my parents who don't care about my grades in school so long as it's not in the D-F range.

Any parent that grounds their kids for not getting straight A's needs to go on Dr. Phill and get some sense smacked into them. No offense.
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Postby darktemplar » Sun Mar 26, 2006 2:12 pm

Did XANA posess your parents? You ought to check this. Your post made me very angry.. on your parents, altough I even don't know them... Did you try to talk with them? Try to scare them if it didn't work. Let you see a example:

My sister cut her veins(I don't know how does it work as idiom in English), and this made my father SO scared... He instantly changed his mind about her... But don't do any physical damage to yourself.. Doing it is a bit of stupid.

My parent don't do the same, because my sister, who keeps on C-B level, drags their attention =)
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Postby Zaeryth » Sun Mar 26, 2006 2:16 pm

Ok, first thing: It is not your fault. Your parents just want to make sure you get a good education, but I think they're going a bit overboard. Judging by your grades, I see you as a very intelligent individual, and I don't see why your parents are being that harsh. My parents always say, "As long as you do your best, that's good enough for us." Plus, I don't think it's fair that your parents are comparing your grades with your friend's grades. That is just bogus. Everyone is different, and everyone has different abilities. I, myself, don't get straight A's all of the time, so don't feel bad. You're not alone. One more thing: Don't ever think you're stupid just because your parents say you are. You know it's not true, and your friends know it's not true.
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Postby darktemplar » Sun Mar 26, 2006 2:20 pm

I think Chosen_one is far from thinking wrong about self, am I wrong?

Chosen_one wrote that My mother wrote:Anyone who gets a B and still thinks well of himself should be reeducated.


AND KEEP THAT! WELLTHINK!

B grades are not bad :D . Personally, I get them too.. too often.

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Postby Insanity Hero » Sun Mar 26, 2006 2:32 pm

I feel sorry for you. Truely and deeply sorry. You are not dumb. In fact the way that you worded your post shows me that you are indeed a bright person. It's just sad that your parents are blinded by how they think you need to get nothing but A's to get past life. That is not true though.

This may be easy for me to type out but try and talk to your parents. Tell them that their putting too much pressure on you. As stated before this may be easier said then done. I wish you the best of luck. :salute:
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Postby Chosen_one » Sun Mar 26, 2006 5:56 pm

Insanity Hero wrote:This may be easy for me to type out but try and talk to your parents. Tell them that their putting too much pressure on you.

:discontent: My parents are so arrogant they won't believe anything. They think they know everything that goes on in my life... they think they don't have to respect me but I have to respect them just 'cause they're adults and I'm a kid. (My mother actually told me this.) And for all I know, maybe they think that whatever they say is true, and anything that contradicts their word is false. Even though about 70% of everything my dad says is false.
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Postby Xenon_&_Odd » Sun Mar 26, 2006 9:29 pm

My parents want me to get good grades but not to the extreme. As long I get the honor roll or get a passing GBA(3.0 or above) they don't really care. As for right now, my GBA without Geometry is 3.6 . But with it, uh...it's 3.3. But anyways. I know people who have parents like that.

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Postby Chosen_one » Mon Mar 27, 2006 10:06 am

Zaeryth wrote:My parents always say, "As long as you do your best, that's good enough for us."

That's the problem. I've gotten an A in all of my subjects at least once before, and so whenever I get a B my parents think I'm not trying my best because they think I can do better. (And they think I can do better because I've done better at a certain point.)
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Postby Just_Jaine » Mon Mar 27, 2006 10:25 am

Chosen_one wrote:I've gotten an A in all of my subjects at least once before, and so whenever I get a B my parents think I'm not trying my best because they think I can do better. (And they think I can do better because I've done better at a certain point.)


That’s because they don’t understand how difficult school can be. You could try telling them to try and do your homework for a night (this only works if they don’t know how to do it). Be careful you could get in trouble for talking back. Also remember that as long as you’ve fulfilled your expectations than your have fulfilled all the expectations that matter.
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Postby Kim » Mon Mar 27, 2006 3:39 pm

I'm really sorry. I don't really know what too tell you. Everyone else is right. Just do your best and forget what they say. If you're doing your best, that's all that matters regardless of what your parents say. And from how you worded your post I (along with the others) can tell that you are very bright. Again, I'm sorry. I'll be praying for you.
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Postby . » Mon Mar 27, 2006 3:49 pm

Rebel. Start listening to heavy rock bands and shopping at hot topic and become a goth. lol

When they start to reject you for it, blame it on them and there over controlling-crappy-parenting.
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Postby Kim » Mon Mar 27, 2006 3:58 pm

ThePepsiPiper wrote:Rebel. Start listening to heavy rock bands and shopping at hot topic and become a goth. lol

When they start to reject you for it, blame it on them and there over controlling-crappy-parenting.


Heh heh heh...great idea...*rolls eyes*
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Postby Chosen_one » Mon Mar 27, 2006 6:55 pm

ThePepsiPiper wrote:Rebel. Start listening to heavy rock bands and shopping at hot topic and become a goth. lol

When they start to reject you for it, blame it on them and there over controlling-crappy-parenting.

Uh... no. I don't know what goth is, I hate goth, I hate rock bands, and I live nowhere near a store. Plus, until now I wasn't allowed to enjoy life. All the posts I made from when I joined the forum until now were made in secret without my parents' permission or knowledge. Now, I'm allowed to use the computer because it's spring break.

Edit: Please don't quote this post. If my parents see this, I'll get in trouble.
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Postby . » Mon Mar 27, 2006 7:48 pm

lol how can you hate Gothic people? they're like some of the kindest people I've ever had the pleasure of knowing!

You must met some bad people >.<

And what do you listen to if it's not rock? Hip-Hop or Pop? I'm just curious :D
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Postby Zaeryth » Mon Mar 27, 2006 7:49 pm

Well, I hope things get better for you. :sigh:
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Postby Chosen_one » Mon Mar 27, 2006 8:44 pm

ThePepsiPiper wrote:lol how can you hate Gothic people? they're like some of the kindest people I've ever had the pleasure of knowing!

You must met some bad people >.<

And what do you listen to if it's not rock? Hip-Hop or Pop? I'm just curious :D

1. I don't like the goth style where everything is black.
2. I do listen to rock music as well as rap... I have no idea what hip-hop is... I've never been able to tell that apart from rock. I just don't listen to rock bands. Is Blink 189 a band?
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Postby Zaeryth » Mon Mar 27, 2006 8:48 pm

I think it's Blink 182... But I seriously don't know. I hate boy bands, no offense to anyone. :D
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Re: A Fine Mess

Postby Jeremified » Mon Mar 27, 2006 8:52 pm

Chosen_One's mother wrote:Don't think B is a good grade. B is a bad grade!

WHAT THE...?! That's so wrong! Here's my grading scale:
A- Excellent
B- Above Average
C- Average
D- Below Average
F- Failed

Chosen_One's mother wrote:Anyone who gets a B and still thinks well of himself should be reeducated.

Once again... that is so wrong! I think anything above 80% (B- at my school) is, well, adequate. 95% or above is excellent for me. If you don't think your parents would kill you for it, you should tell me I said this. And I'm somewhere around the 6th smartest kid in my class.
I'm serious. You should tell your parents that this is coming from an (almost) straight-A student. (I'm running a B+ right now :( )
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Postby emoBillâ„¢ » Mon Mar 27, 2006 8:54 pm

OMG, my mom does that too! Everyone thinks I'm a sponge-brain and all my friends think I'm weird since girls shouldn't be smart and my mom says that if I get a low B I'm gonna be grounded from electronics T-T
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Postby Jeremified » Mon Mar 27, 2006 8:55 pm

Aelita wrote:OMG, my mom does that too! Everyone thinks I'm a sponge-brain and all my friends think I'm weird since girls shouldn't be smart and my mom says that if I get a low B I'm gonna be grounded from electronics T-T
I thought your mom mysteriously disappeared in The Key... :*D
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Postby . » Mon Mar 27, 2006 9:03 pm

2. I do listen to rock music as well as rap... I have no idea what hip-hop is... I've never been able to tell that apart from rock. I just don't listen to rock bands. Is Blink 189 a band?

Hip Hop is rap :P Blink 182 is punk rock... or was I'm not even sure they're around anymore. I'm not that in to Punk bands but thats me.

I thought your mom mysteriously disappeared in The Key...

SHHHHHH!!!!! Kayfabe!!! :P

(No one is gonna get that lol)
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Postby emoBillâ„¢ » Mon Mar 27, 2006 9:05 pm

Jeremified wrote:
Aelita wrote:OMG, my mom does that too! Everyone thinks I'm a sponge-brain and all my friends think I'm weird since girls shouldn't be smart and my mom says that if I get a low B I'm gonna be grounded from electronics T-T
I thought your mom mysteriously disappeared in The Key... :*D


Star Way says I gotta stop RPing to get into BKO since x1 isn't replying... but she hasn't even replied back, and I'm still locked out T-T

You're right TPP, I didn't get it.

EDIT: AND she didn't disappear in 'The Key', she disappeared about 20 years ago.
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Postby . » Mon Mar 27, 2006 9:18 pm

Aelita wrote:
Jeremified wrote:
Aelita wrote:OMG, my mom does that too! Everyone thinks I'm a sponge-brain and all my friends think I'm weird since girls shouldn't be smart and my mom says that if I get a low B I'm gonna be grounded from electronics T-T
I thought your mom mysteriously disappeared in The Key... :*D


Star Way says I gotta stop RPing to get into BKO since x1 isn't replying... but she hasn't even replied back, and I'm still locked out T-T

You're right TPP, I didn't get it.

EDIT: AND she didn't disappear in 'The Key', she disappeared about 20 years ago.


Ah I think x1 is like dead or something, I've been waiting forever for my BKO access >.<

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